♥ms.pacman♥
11-15-2012, 04:04 PM
wonder if this is normal or not. we were at the park today, on the jungle gym that is designed for school-aged kids so i was up there with dd and ds, mainly to make sure DD doesn't fall down the sides or openings where older kids can climb up (it's like a 15 ft drop). I was telling DS we have to be careful with DD, that she doesn't fall down. DS then looked down at one of the openings and said "I want to push [DD] down. I want [DD] to fall down in there. I want [DD] to be broken." :eek: WTF! He said it with a totally straight face, as if he was asking for a PB&J sandwich or something.
The other thing...at playdates or out in public he will see a small baby (usually sleeping) and then sometimes will shriek/scream loudly and say "I just want to scare that baby." or "I want to wake that baby up." But more often, "I just wanted to scare that baby with my screaming." WTF. Of course I then have to try to make him stop shrieking while this other mom gives me this look like "Why is your kid trying to terrorize my child?"
Anyway, the shrieking/waking up baby thing doesn't bug me as much as the first comment at the playground. Not sure he would ever actually do that, but in the past when we're at home he has pushed her around or kicked her and then afterwards said things like "I just wanted to push [DD] down." Um, why the desire to knock down your baby sister for no good reason?? Sure, i get that if she took a toy from him he may push her down to get back at her, but often it is for NO REASON at all that he takes a swipe at poor DD.
The other thing..DS is extremely articulate to the point that it's scary. He is very descriptive of his feelings and what he wants...he will say things like "At swim class I was crying a little bit. Because I was scared to go in the water by myself. But then I was okay." So, it's not like anything is really lost in translation with him. The kid uses words like "delighted" and says things like "Shall we do puzzles now?"
Now DS is often very loving towards DD, and somewhat protective of her...often hugging her, and saying things like "Oh! Do you need help [DD]? Let me get that for you." He even gets very scared and sometimes starts crying himself when DD is put in time out in her room and is bawling, and says "I don't want [DD] to be sad!" He does seem very loving towards his sister (when they're not fighting over the same toy, LOL). And compared to other boys his age in our playgroup, he seems pretty good in terms of not hitting other kids (he has *never* intentionally hit another child, other than his sister). So I am puzzled over comments like wanting to basically push his sister down a cliff so she she can break! What is up with that?? Would love for any opinions on this, esp those with child dev background/experience. What is going thru his head to make him say these things?
The other thing...at playdates or out in public he will see a small baby (usually sleeping) and then sometimes will shriek/scream loudly and say "I just want to scare that baby." or "I want to wake that baby up." But more often, "I just wanted to scare that baby with my screaming." WTF. Of course I then have to try to make him stop shrieking while this other mom gives me this look like "Why is your kid trying to terrorize my child?"
Anyway, the shrieking/waking up baby thing doesn't bug me as much as the first comment at the playground. Not sure he would ever actually do that, but in the past when we're at home he has pushed her around or kicked her and then afterwards said things like "I just wanted to push [DD] down." Um, why the desire to knock down your baby sister for no good reason?? Sure, i get that if she took a toy from him he may push her down to get back at her, but often it is for NO REASON at all that he takes a swipe at poor DD.
The other thing..DS is extremely articulate to the point that it's scary. He is very descriptive of his feelings and what he wants...he will say things like "At swim class I was crying a little bit. Because I was scared to go in the water by myself. But then I was okay." So, it's not like anything is really lost in translation with him. The kid uses words like "delighted" and says things like "Shall we do puzzles now?"
Now DS is often very loving towards DD, and somewhat protective of her...often hugging her, and saying things like "Oh! Do you need help [DD]? Let me get that for you." He even gets very scared and sometimes starts crying himself when DD is put in time out in her room and is bawling, and says "I don't want [DD] to be sad!" He does seem very loving towards his sister (when they're not fighting over the same toy, LOL). And compared to other boys his age in our playgroup, he seems pretty good in terms of not hitting other kids (he has *never* intentionally hit another child, other than his sister). So I am puzzled over comments like wanting to basically push his sister down a cliff so she she can break! What is up with that?? Would love for any opinions on this, esp those with child dev background/experience. What is going thru his head to make him say these things?