JustMe
12-19-2012, 12:49 PM
This is a spin off from the thread asking if you asked if there were guns in the house. It seemed a lot of people who answered were not yet doing drop off playdates. So, for those of us with kids in elementary school what, if any, questions/precautions do you take when your child makes a new friend at school, wants to have a playdate, and you don't know the parents. We do have a school directory, so my question is not how to contact them, but what would you ask. Of course, my first thing would be to ask for the first playdate to be at my house, but after that then what?
I am asking this question, both in general and I also have 2 different scenarios---
1) Dd has become very good friends with a new girl this year. The girl is very sweet, and I have met her mom a few times at school functions and had no concerns. I was ready to allow dd to go to their house (they have not had playdates yet; dd has been asking, but it is such a busy time that I have not done anything about it), when dd mentioned that the dad smoked and also made some vague remarks about him indicating that she was not too sure about him. There are a few more details here regarding a birthday party the girl had in a public place, but I won't go into them as I am also just wanting a general idea of what you do about households with smokers, etc.
2) Ds has a new friend he hangs out with in the aftercare program who he adores. He has been asking for a playdate a lot. they are new to the school this year. I have never seen the parents and know nothing about them.
Part of me wants to not worry so much about everything and just send them...but what do you do?
thanks
I am asking this question, both in general and I also have 2 different scenarios---
1) Dd has become very good friends with a new girl this year. The girl is very sweet, and I have met her mom a few times at school functions and had no concerns. I was ready to allow dd to go to their house (they have not had playdates yet; dd has been asking, but it is such a busy time that I have not done anything about it), when dd mentioned that the dad smoked and also made some vague remarks about him indicating that she was not too sure about him. There are a few more details here regarding a birthday party the girl had in a public place, but I won't go into them as I am also just wanting a general idea of what you do about households with smokers, etc.
2) Ds has a new friend he hangs out with in the aftercare program who he adores. He has been asking for a playdate a lot. they are new to the school this year. I have never seen the parents and know nothing about them.
Part of me wants to not worry so much about everything and just send them...but what do you do?
thanks