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Pennylane
02-13-2013, 09:10 AM
Why am I sharing this here? Because I have to talk about it today and I'm not sure where else to do it. She died from complications due to lung cancer. She battled for a year, none of us ever thinking anything but that she would recover. She had fought all her life though. First for her marriage and through another battle with cancer after I was born. I remember her telling me how she thought she was going to die the first time she had cancer. She remembered clearly her doctor telling her they had done everything they could do and it was in Gods hands now. She said she prayed so hard and begged him to just let her live to bring up her 3 children . She lived and led what I want to believe was a full life. She had 7 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. She adored them and always treated them so special. To me , there was nothing better than watching her Love my children. She would read, play ball, or color for hours. She would never be the first one to quit! She never missed sending a card for every holiday or a small gift.

I talked to her every day of my life and there is a deep hole in my heart since she has been gone. Not one day has gone by over the last year that I don't think of her and wish I could hear her voice.

If you read this, thank you because you thought of her if only for a minute. She deserves that and so much more.

Ann

georgiegirl
02-13-2013, 09:13 AM
Many hugs. I am so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you had a great mother.

alexsmommy
02-13-2013, 09:15 AM
What a lovely tribute. Have a peaceful day remembering the good times.

Twoboos
02-13-2013, 09:16 AM
Many hugs to you!! :grouphug: It's so hard to lose your mom.

Philly Mom
02-13-2013, 09:17 AM
Hugs to you.

boogiemomz
02-13-2013, 09:19 AM
Your post is deeply moving, your mother was a very special lady and her love and legacy clearly endures. I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

ourbabygirl
02-13-2013, 09:27 AM
Wow, sounds like she was an awesome, devoted mother & grandmother.... what a nice description of her.
I'm so sorry for your loss.... hope you find comfort today in many fond memories of your mom.

sarahsthreads
02-13-2013, 09:33 AM
:hug:

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sarah

Momit
02-13-2013, 09:54 AM
So sorry for your loss.

crl
02-13-2013, 10:06 AM
I am so sorry for your loss.

Catherine

Kymberley
02-13-2013, 10:14 AM
:hug:

What a special mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother she was.

Ceepa
02-13-2013, 10:15 AM
I'm sorry for your loss. Your mom obviously left a legacy of deep love.

missym
02-13-2013, 10:16 AM
What a lovely tribute to your mom. Sending P&PT to you and your family. :grouphug:

Tenasparkl
02-13-2013, 10:43 AM
I'm sorry. She sounds like such a lovely person.

arivecchi
02-13-2013, 10:46 AM
What a moving post. My thoughts will be with you and your mom today. I am so sorry for your loss.

TwoBees
02-13-2013, 10:47 AM
I'm so sorry. :grouphug:

Dream
02-13-2013, 10:53 AM
:hug: so sorry for your loss.

psimpson3-5
02-13-2013, 10:57 AM
:hug:

Thank you for such a moving post. Such a loving tribute. My thoughts are with you and your family today.

lalasmama
02-13-2013, 11:04 AM
She sounds like such a wonderful person. I'm sorry she's gone, but so glad she left you with lasting, living memories.

(The 6th anniversary of my mom's passing was Monday. For me, like you, not a day goes by that I don't think of her.)

boogiemom
02-13-2013, 11:18 AM
Hugs. Your words are beautiful. It's so hard to live your life with the hole left by the loss of someone who is so special and close.

cntrymoon2
02-13-2013, 11:23 AM
Your words are such a beautiful tribute to her. Many, many hugs today.

123LuckyMom
02-13-2013, 11:33 AM
Hugs to you today! Thank you for sharing with us a little picture of an inspiring woman.

Binkandabee
02-13-2013, 11:35 AM
Your post brought tears to my eyes....it's apparent you adored her. Thinking of you and your Mom today.

wendibird22
02-13-2013, 11:36 AM
Thinking of you and your mom. She sounds like the mom and grandma everyone wishes they could have. I am so glad you and your children were able to have such a lovely relationship with her. That's so special and blessed.

Gena
02-13-2013, 12:02 PM
:hug: Hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss.

WitMom
02-13-2013, 12:11 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. My mother passed away this past year as well. And I still can't believe it's real. Peace and comfort to you today, and all the days ahead.

baymom
02-13-2013, 12:15 PM
What a lovely tribute to your Mom! I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

Globetrotter
02-13-2013, 12:17 PM
:grouphug:
I can tell she was a lovely person, and I'm glad she got to know her grandchildren after the first bought with cancer.

tabegle
02-13-2013, 12:20 PM
Wow, you wrote a beautiful tribute to your mom. It made me well up with tears. I'm so glad you were so close with your mom and were able to love her so much!!!

indigo99
02-13-2013, 12:27 PM
My mom died in 2001 after battling cancer. This past year, I didn't even notice when the anniversary of her death passed (I realized it a couple days later). I guess that some people might want to make the day special, but I was happy to have it pass without feeling horribly sad all day long like I have in the past. The grief gets easier with time, but you also feel more and more distanced from the person... so it's bittersweet. I can't really imagine her as part of my life now (I wasn't even married yet when she died), and I have fewer and fewer memories of her.

boolady
02-13-2013, 12:30 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug:

hopeful_mama
02-13-2013, 12:34 PM
Today would have been my grandmother's birthday; I will think of you and your mother today when I think of her. :hug:

AngelaS
02-13-2013, 12:38 PM
Praying for you today. This year will be 18 years since my mom died.

lmr1101
02-13-2013, 12:54 PM
I'm so sorry for you and your family. I lost my brother almost 5 years ago... his birthday would have been tomorrow.

Loss is always so hard - especially when it comes around a holiday.

MamaMolly
02-13-2013, 12:59 PM
Big hugs, honey. I'm so sorry.

mytwosons
02-13-2013, 01:08 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: She sounds like a wonderful mother!

elektra
02-13-2013, 01:10 PM
I am so sorry. It sounds like you had a great relationship. I am sure she is dearly missed. :grouphug:

happymom
02-13-2013, 01:13 PM
Hugs :hug:. She sounds like a very special person.

SASM
02-13-2013, 01:20 PM
Huge hugs as you get through today and beyond. :( Many P&PT'S.

California
02-13-2013, 01:45 PM
She sounds like a wonderful mother, and there is comfort in knowing that you both loved each other very much, and she knew how much you cared for her.

swissair81
02-13-2013, 01:48 PM
Hugs. I don't know how you feel but June will be the 26th anniversary of my dad's death, and my mom had her own cancer scare last year.

inmypjs
02-13-2013, 02:06 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been 3 years since my mother died and it is still hard. I hope you can find some peace.

willow33
02-13-2013, 02:06 PM
Sounds like she was a very special woman! And I'm sure she treasured your relationship just the same. Death of a parent is never easy. My dad died of cancer 7 years ago this March and I also think of him daily. Hugs to you today and always...

curiousgeorge
02-13-2013, 02:11 PM
Big hugs to you. I think all of the "firsts" that year after someone is gone are so hard, especially this "last first" as you can think of it. Your mom sounds like she was an amazing woman and you are so lucky to have had her as a part of your life for so long.

My dad died 16 years ago this past weekend. I miss him every day and would have loved to have him around to do all the things with his grandchildren that your mom did with her grandkids.

I'll be thinking of you today.

infomama
02-13-2013, 02:18 PM
Lifting you up today. :grouphug:

queenmama
02-13-2013, 02:35 PM
She sounds like a very loving mother and grandmother. I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

Lara

StantonHyde
02-13-2013, 02:52 PM
The first year is hard. Unfortunately, the second year can be even harder. The third year--you start to see the light. It has been 6.5 years for me. It does get better, I promise. Time does heal. It still hurts, yes. You never really get over it, but you do get through it. :22:

sunshine873
02-13-2013, 04:14 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom sounds like a wonderful person and I can understand the hole you have without her in your life. After 7 years I still miss my mom so dreadfully and wish she were here to know and love DD like she did her other grandkids.

Hugs. :grouphug:

kdeunc
02-13-2013, 04:18 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you today. :hug:

speo
02-13-2013, 04:20 PM
:hug: I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I have thought of her today.

Twin Mom
02-13-2013, 04:23 PM
I am very sorry for your loss. :grouphug:

plusbellelavie
02-13-2013, 04:29 PM
Such a moving piece! Your mother sounds like an incredible mother, grandmother, person! Thanks for sharing and you are in my thoughts today!:hug:

KLD313
02-13-2013, 05:07 PM
I'm so sorry. Anniversaries like these are tough. I hope you find comfort somehow.

gatorsmom
02-13-2013, 05:08 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand completely what you are going through. I miss my mom too. It does get easier, slowly.

jayali
02-13-2013, 05:11 PM
Big hugs to you. What a beautiful way to remember your mother. Thank you for sharing her with us.

cilantromapuche
02-13-2013, 05:28 PM
I am sorry for your loss. Having lost my mother 14 years ago I still miss her lots. She obviously died before I had the kids and that is very sad to me. We try to celebrate her as much as possible. We have cake on her bday, etc.
Hugs.

crayonblue
02-13-2013, 05:29 PM
A beautiful tribute to your mom. I'm really sorry.

Carrots
02-13-2013, 05:50 PM
Why am I sharing this here? Because I have to talk about it today and I'm not sure where else to do it. She died from complications due to lung cancer. She battled for a year, none of us ever thinking anything but that she would recover. She had fought all her life though. First for her marriage and through another battle with cancer after I was born. I remember her telling me how she thought she was going to die the first time she had cancer. She remembered clearly her doctor telling her they had done everything they could do and it was in Gods hands now. She said she prayed so hard and begged him to just let her live to bring up her 3 children . She lived and led what I want to believe was a full life. She had 7 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. She adored them and always treated them so special. To me , there was nothing better than watching her Love my children. She would read, play ball, or color for hours. She would never be the first one to quit! She never missed sending a card for every holiday or a small gift.

I talked to her every day of my life and there is a deep hole in my heart since she has been gone. Not one day has gone by over the last year that I don't think of her and wish I could hear her voice.

If you read this, thank you because you thought of her if only for a minute. She deserves that and so much more.

Ann

Many hugs today. Thank you for telling us about this anniversary. I know well how it feels after a loss that the world just continues along, when you are left feeling like a hole was punched through you - especially on anniversaries. I will think of you and your mom today.

:candle: In your mom's memory. :grouphug:

Pennylane
02-13-2013, 07:19 PM
Thank you everyone for your kind words, prayers and thoughts. It has been a hard day but a day that I have spent remembering all the wonderful things about her and sharing these happy memories with my dc.

Ann

oneontheway
02-13-2013, 07:22 PM
So sorry for your loss. Sounds like she was an amazing person.

twotimesblue
02-13-2013, 07:55 PM
Your mother sounds like a wonderful, strong woman. I'm so very sorry for your loss :grouphug:

pinkmomagain
02-13-2013, 08:13 PM
Couldn't read and not post. It sounds like she really made the most of her time with her family. How wonderful that her children and grandchildren benefitted and that you have been able to truly appreciate and cherish that.

TxCat
02-13-2013, 08:40 PM
:grouphug:

She sounds like a wonderful person. Her legacy will stay alive through you and your siblings and children.

Seitvonzu
02-13-2013, 08:43 PM
i'm glad i read this and i'm sorry for your loss. take care of yourself today!

cleo27
02-13-2013, 08:45 PM
Hugs to you. Thank you for sharing about your Mom. She sounds like she was an awesome person!

liz
02-13-2013, 08:56 PM
I am so sorry Ann :hug::hug:

ZeeBaby
02-13-2013, 09:30 PM
So sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent leaves a deep whole in your heart.

dcmom2b3
02-13-2013, 09:51 PM
Your post is deeply moving, your mother was a very special lady and her love and legacy clearly endures. I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

The bolded part jumped quickly to mind as I read your post. Wishing you peace. :grouphug:

MMMommy
02-13-2013, 10:13 PM
:hug: I'm so sorry. Big hugs and thoughts.

maestramommy
02-13-2013, 10:33 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss:hug: Your mother sounds amazing, clearly she was everything to you.

g-mama
02-13-2013, 10:38 PM
I'm so sorry. My mom died of cancer ten years ago and I understand how you feel. It's really hard. :hug:

tina-t
02-13-2013, 10:39 PM
(((hugs)))

My mother passed away in 2005, but I miss her every day.

hellokitty
02-13-2013, 10:53 PM
I'm sorry for your loss. :hug: It sounds like your mom was a wonderful person and you miss her so much.

malphy
02-13-2013, 11:08 PM
I'm sorry and I understand. The pain doesn't go away it just becomes easier to bear.

viba424
02-13-2013, 11:16 PM
We all share these feelings with you today, as it could or may be any one of us. Thinking of you and many blessings.

westwoodmom04
02-13-2013, 11:19 PM
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your mom with us. I hope that my daughter feels the same way about me when she is an adult. What a beautiful tribute.

RV Mom
02-13-2013, 11:39 PM
I couldn't help but respond to your post. I lost my mom November 2012 after her 15 year long battle of bone cancer and then she ended up dying of a massive stroke after a 1 month retirement trip with my dad in Africa. She lived out her life to the fullest and am happy to know she died traveling which is what she and my dad loved. I never got to say goodbye and even after a year and several months has gone by there is still a deep pain in heart that she is gone. I totally think everyday about her and wish I could hear her voice and her contagious laugh. Sometimes I feel like I am living in a dream and that she really didn't die.

I have a 1 year old DD who never got to meet her amazing grandmother for who she is named.

I miss my mom everyday. Find it hard to talk about her. Sending you hugs of comfort and just to say I know how you feel. I hope our moms have meet on the other side because she sounds like an amazing women.

mommy111
02-13-2013, 11:45 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. :hug:

Nooknookmom
02-13-2013, 11:58 PM
My Mother is 83 and I call her each and every day, even just to say HI. I know our time is limited, and I am so moved by your post. I lost my Father when I was 2. There really are NO words to make it feel any better

I'm sorry for your loss, your Mother sounded like a wonderful Mom, Grandmother and friend.

Enjoy those memories.

citymama
02-14-2013, 01:21 AM
What a beautiful tribute to an inspiring, loving woman. You are so lucky to have been raised by your mom - and she to have had you. I'm sorry you didn't get more time with her. Big hugs.

goldenpig
02-14-2013, 02:04 AM
What a beautiful tribute to your mother. She was a lovely woman. Thank you for sharing and I'm so sorry for your loss. My father died of cancer 16 years ago and he is still missed by all of us.