Wwyd?

[ray7694]

My ex husband and I have an 8 yo and have been pretty much been battling since the beginning when he left with his mistress while I was pregnant. Our major issue is that we both want our son as much as possible. He is angry because I won't agree to give him 50/50 visitation so we go to court over and over. Last time he lost trying to get more custody. It was really scary and cost me $20,000.

Anyway my issue is that he emails me things that I know he will use in court. The email is only a record for court. The emails obviously upset me and my current husband and affect my life. I want to be rid of it.

The problem is I have to communicate with him and we don't communicate well on the phone either.

Any ideas on how to limit contact with someone you have to talk to. I limit my emails as little as possible but it doesn't matter.
TIA!

[KLD313]

Can you use someone to communicate for you?

[TxCat]

Find a licensed mediator (often a lawyer who is a specialist in mediation). See if they come up with a workable communication strategy for you.

[Green22]

:yeahthat:

Call your local attorney bar association to find a mediator- they might be able to help.

In the meantime I would try and come up with a canned response to anything inflammatory "I am not interested in arguing or getting into discussions about our relationship issues, and only care to do what is in x's best interest." And then just respond to the immediate question about your son, like "I can pick him up at 4 pm on Tuesday at the place you suggested." Kwim?

Good luck.

[barkley1]

My DH had this very issue with his ex. What worked is blocking each others email address, and only communicate via phone or text. Since they hated talking on the phone, it ended up being on critical things only, or mainly by voicemail or text. It's worked GREAT for the past 7 years!