MamaMolly
02-26-2013, 09:21 AM
Final Update: So this afternoon I asked her to tell me about the plants. She explained that she and her sister were playing Pocahantas, picking corn. It makes sense in a 6yo way. The plants have long stalks with big leaves and the flowers could look like a big (albeit red) corn cob. Sort of. ;) This morning when I posted I thought she was just being destructive and I was angry and concerned. Truthfully you guys were right, she was just being a little kid. I'm so glad that you all helped me walk through this to get from a place of anger to one of actually PARENTING. Thank you!!
UPDATING FOR CLARIFICATION: I'm sure the plants will grow back on their own. It is the stems and blossoms that were broken off, the plants weren't uprooted or anything. It isn't something I'd go to the LL about, because if anything the damn things will grow back fuller in a month of two. It could be looked at as trimming back or thinning out of a plant bed. I'm asking for advice on a *parenting* level. I don't see this as a 'kids will be kids' thing, because Lula knows she did wrong, and did it anyway. I want other's thoughts and opinions about how you handle that side of it.
On the way to the car this morning I noticed that several large ornamental red ginger plants in our yard are broken off. As in twigs are left, so essentially they are destroyed. These are big plants, between 4-6 feet tall, and over 20 of them are broken off. I asked my DDs if they knew what happened to the plants and immediately Lula (6) starts rather desperately apologizing, saying it was an accident, they won't do it again. :irked:
Apologizing when Mama asks if they know anything is a SURE sign that my DD knew she was doing wrong *when* she was doing it.
I told her I was really upset, because she broke the plants and also because they don't belong to us. I plan to talk to DH about it this evening, but I want to know what you would do.
I'm really pi$$ed because we are renting, and I take pride in how well we care for the homes we rent. We try really hard to be great renters. Out LLs have been super nice, very responsive, and yard maintenance is in our contract. We have someone come out every 3-4 weeks to clean up, maintain the bushes and plants, and clean off the roof (as per our lease). I know that the way the house/ yard looks MATTERS to the LLs. And their daughter lives two houses down from us.
My DDs have picked flowers or leaves before, but nothing that would make a difference in the appearance of the yard. This escapade is willful, large scale destruction of property.
So WWYD?
UPDATING FOR CLARIFICATION: I'm sure the plants will grow back on their own. It is the stems and blossoms that were broken off, the plants weren't uprooted or anything. It isn't something I'd go to the LL about, because if anything the damn things will grow back fuller in a month of two. It could be looked at as trimming back or thinning out of a plant bed. I'm asking for advice on a *parenting* level. I don't see this as a 'kids will be kids' thing, because Lula knows she did wrong, and did it anyway. I want other's thoughts and opinions about how you handle that side of it.
On the way to the car this morning I noticed that several large ornamental red ginger plants in our yard are broken off. As in twigs are left, so essentially they are destroyed. These are big plants, between 4-6 feet tall, and over 20 of them are broken off. I asked my DDs if they knew what happened to the plants and immediately Lula (6) starts rather desperately apologizing, saying it was an accident, they won't do it again. :irked:
Apologizing when Mama asks if they know anything is a SURE sign that my DD knew she was doing wrong *when* she was doing it.
I told her I was really upset, because she broke the plants and also because they don't belong to us. I plan to talk to DH about it this evening, but I want to know what you would do.
I'm really pi$$ed because we are renting, and I take pride in how well we care for the homes we rent. We try really hard to be great renters. Out LLs have been super nice, very responsive, and yard maintenance is in our contract. We have someone come out every 3-4 weeks to clean up, maintain the bushes and plants, and clean off the roof (as per our lease). I know that the way the house/ yard looks MATTERS to the LLs. And their daughter lives two houses down from us.
My DDs have picked flowers or leaves before, but nothing that would make a difference in the appearance of the yard. This escapade is willful, large scale destruction of property.
So WWYD?