magnoliaparadise
03-08-2013, 02:10 AM
Hi,
I have the opportunity to buy a home from a former neighbor from childhood and neither of us will have a realtor. If I do it, it will move very quickly (I have not seen the house yet, but will travel to see it in a couple of weeks).
I would love to hear from those who have bought (especially) or sold a home without a realtor. I would have a lot of needs in the process so I'm wondering if it is worth it to pay any realtor for the guidance (ie I would need to research how much to suggest to offer or negotiate and to find an inspector and real estate attorney). Also, the house would be a total fixer upper / gut renovation on the inside, so I would need to find a foreman and/or a renovation contractor, electrician, plumber, etc. and I don't know the area anymore; Perhaps a realtor is worth their weight in gold in referrals alone. On the other hand, 5% of the cost of the house is a lot of money if I found it myself and decide that I don't need a realtor.
I would also love to hear from those who have bought or sold a home from someone you know. In this circumstance, it is ideal in some ways (probably price range is right; location is good; and from what I know about houses in the area built with a simlar layout, it is suitable). In other ways, though, I am starting to think that even if everything else is right, it may be too weird for me to buy it. As I mentioned, this house is in a neighborhood that I lived in at one time as a child. I wasn't close friends with the children and don't remember even entering the house, but I knew them and their parents. Now, one of the parents is in a nursing home and the other sadly died unexpectedly and something feels sad to buy their house, even if that is what the now grown children want and the price is fair - I'm wondering whether I would feel like there was bad energy in the house (sorry to sound so woo woo - not saying it is bad energy because of the family, but because of my sadness for the parents of the family) and I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable living in the house remembering so well that I knew it as the (fill in neighbor's last name here)'s house for so many years. And the whole 'circle of life' things seems a little too close for comfort. It's as if I could live there and be looking at my daughters' friends/neighbors and wondering who is going to buy the house when I'm old, ewwwww.
Now, I know, technically, that there are many homes that I might choose to put in an offer which have a similar history - happy family gets older; parents go to a nursing home or pass away; and the house gets sold to a new, young family. But I guess because I don't know the personal history of those houses, I can move in with the false construct in my head that the house is 'totally' mine without a past.
I'd love any thoughts you have on either on no realtor or buying/selling from someone you know. TIA.
I have the opportunity to buy a home from a former neighbor from childhood and neither of us will have a realtor. If I do it, it will move very quickly (I have not seen the house yet, but will travel to see it in a couple of weeks).
I would love to hear from those who have bought (especially) or sold a home without a realtor. I would have a lot of needs in the process so I'm wondering if it is worth it to pay any realtor for the guidance (ie I would need to research how much to suggest to offer or negotiate and to find an inspector and real estate attorney). Also, the house would be a total fixer upper / gut renovation on the inside, so I would need to find a foreman and/or a renovation contractor, electrician, plumber, etc. and I don't know the area anymore; Perhaps a realtor is worth their weight in gold in referrals alone. On the other hand, 5% of the cost of the house is a lot of money if I found it myself and decide that I don't need a realtor.
I would also love to hear from those who have bought or sold a home from someone you know. In this circumstance, it is ideal in some ways (probably price range is right; location is good; and from what I know about houses in the area built with a simlar layout, it is suitable). In other ways, though, I am starting to think that even if everything else is right, it may be too weird for me to buy it. As I mentioned, this house is in a neighborhood that I lived in at one time as a child. I wasn't close friends with the children and don't remember even entering the house, but I knew them and their parents. Now, one of the parents is in a nursing home and the other sadly died unexpectedly and something feels sad to buy their house, even if that is what the now grown children want and the price is fair - I'm wondering whether I would feel like there was bad energy in the house (sorry to sound so woo woo - not saying it is bad energy because of the family, but because of my sadness for the parents of the family) and I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable living in the house remembering so well that I knew it as the (fill in neighbor's last name here)'s house for so many years. And the whole 'circle of life' things seems a little too close for comfort. It's as if I could live there and be looking at my daughters' friends/neighbors and wondering who is going to buy the house when I'm old, ewwwww.
Now, I know, technically, that there are many homes that I might choose to put in an offer which have a similar history - happy family gets older; parents go to a nursing home or pass away; and the house gets sold to a new, young family. But I guess because I don't know the personal history of those houses, I can move in with the false construct in my head that the house is 'totally' mine without a past.
I'd love any thoughts you have on either on no realtor or buying/selling from someone you know. TIA.