anonomom
03-08-2013, 09:25 AM
DD2 turned 4 last month. She's always been a sunny, enthusiastic kid and a natural athlete. Over the fall, she begged me to sign her up for soccer classes, so I did and she started in January. She also takes gymnastics once a week (something she's been doing since before she could walk) and goes to preschool 3x a week.
About three weeks ago, DD started saying she didn't like school any more and didn't want to go. When I'd ask her why, she'd mention an array of reasons from "it's boring" to "all the kids want to play with me and I don't want to play" to "I miss my favorite work." I talked to the teacher about it, and she was shocked because recently DD has very much come into her own in the classroom. When she's there, she works happily and gets along well with the other kids.
In the meantime, DD had been loving her soccer class -- she would light up like a Christmas tree when Tuesday morning rolled around. Then suddenly last week, as we got in the car after class, she declared she didn't like soccer and didn't want to go anymore. I told her we need to finish out the session we paid for and then she can quit. As far as I know, there was no incident or problem that precipitated this change. A week later, she still says she wants to quit.
But then yesterday, she declared she also wants to quit gymnastics. She doesn't like that anymore, either.
At this point, I'm not sure what to think. Is this a control issue? It's not like our time at home is that fantastic -- all of her friends are in school so we have a playdate once every few weeks if that. I don't want to force DD to do any given activity, but I think she will really regret it if she quits everything now (quitting school is, of course, not an option).
Has anyone btdt? Any advice?
About three weeks ago, DD started saying she didn't like school any more and didn't want to go. When I'd ask her why, she'd mention an array of reasons from "it's boring" to "all the kids want to play with me and I don't want to play" to "I miss my favorite work." I talked to the teacher about it, and she was shocked because recently DD has very much come into her own in the classroom. When she's there, she works happily and gets along well with the other kids.
In the meantime, DD had been loving her soccer class -- she would light up like a Christmas tree when Tuesday morning rolled around. Then suddenly last week, as we got in the car after class, she declared she didn't like soccer and didn't want to go anymore. I told her we need to finish out the session we paid for and then she can quit. As far as I know, there was no incident or problem that precipitated this change. A week later, she still says she wants to quit.
But then yesterday, she declared she also wants to quit gymnastics. She doesn't like that anymore, either.
At this point, I'm not sure what to think. Is this a control issue? It's not like our time at home is that fantastic -- all of her friends are in school so we have a playdate once every few weeks if that. I don't want to force DD to do any given activity, but I think she will really regret it if she quits everything now (quitting school is, of course, not an option).
Has anyone btdt? Any advice?