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05-23-2013, 07:25 AM
UPDATE: I just had a few friends visit. These gals helped me think the whole thing through. Looking at our layout together, I've decided to go ahead and put the two big boys in the playroom. It wouldn't take much moving of stuff around, the big boys spend almost all of their time in the playroom anyway and they would not mind having the doors open most of the time leaving our open floorplan. That leaves DS3 and the new baby to share the quieter bedroom. There is plenty of room this way and it makes sense from a sleeping strategy point of view. Whether the baby is a boy or a girl, we'll keep the littles together for the first few years and I'm sure it will be just fine!
Thank you for helping me think this through. I'm sure this isn't the perfect decision but I feel peace!
XXX
I'm up right now. It is 4:06 am. I can't figure out what to do with my kids when DC4 comes in November, lol. I know, it is a LONG way away but...
We live in a small house. It is a great house and situation for us and there is a lot to be recommended. But it is small. Especially for four kids. But such a great deal, great location, great so many things that moving is not really part of the equation for several years.
Our house is basically a square. Each of the four corners is a large room and the middle segment is the entry way with an eat-in kitchen on the other side. One side of the house has a bedroom in each corner. The other side has a large living room and what was a dining room but functions for us as a library/playroom. It has doors that connect it both to the living room AND to the kitchen/nook area in the middle.
Right now both sets of playroom doors are open all the time and the flow of the house is really nice. In order to facilitate that we have all three kids sharing a room. In their room they have clothes and beds and some stuffed animals. All of their books and toys are stored in the playroom. It works fairly well. I'm hesitant to make this room a bedroom because it disrupts the open feeling of the home. There is another path to the kitchen from the living room (through a door in the kitchen) but the openness of the current plan is just really nice. Another downside to use of this room as a bedroom is that it shares walls with the kitchen and the living room whereas the bedrooms are very nicely isolated from public areas and much quieter (better for naps by far).
But when we start thinking about adding a fourth child, it makes me wonder if we would be better served by separating the kids a bit. DH thinks if this one is a girl that she should have her own room (even as an infant!) although frankly I don't have strong feelings one way or the other in this regard. If it is a boy, he thinks all four should share (just add DS4 to the room with his brothers) which would be a stretch but would work. Although it would be a little hard having an infant, a 2yo, a 6yo and a 10yo all in the same room! (We have a bunk bed with trundle, and a crib in there right now. We have space for a pack n' play or minicrib if necessary.) The other option is separating out the two bigger boys. We could put their bunks in the playroom, keep most of their toys there and still keep it open for play etc. during the day. BUT they could close the doors if they wanted privacy from the littler kids.
What would YOU do? If you had a girl, would you:
a. Give up the playroom and make a nursery/bedroom for her
b. Have her share with her three brothers in the "sleeping area" and maintain the playroom
c. Make her share with her 2yo brother and put the big boys in playroom
d. Put the little kids in the playroom and the big kids in the quiet, more private room.
If you had a BOY would you:
a. Just keep him in the same room with all three brothers
b. Still put the big boys in the playroom and keep the two littles in the quiet bedroom
c. Still put the big boys in the quieter room and keep the littles in the playroom
Essentially, would you convert the playroom to a bedroom? What kids would you put there?
If you've made is this far THANK YOU. I can't tell you how I'm agonizing over this!
Thank you for helping me think this through. I'm sure this isn't the perfect decision but I feel peace!
XXX
I'm up right now. It is 4:06 am. I can't figure out what to do with my kids when DC4 comes in November, lol. I know, it is a LONG way away but...
We live in a small house. It is a great house and situation for us and there is a lot to be recommended. But it is small. Especially for four kids. But such a great deal, great location, great so many things that moving is not really part of the equation for several years.
Our house is basically a square. Each of the four corners is a large room and the middle segment is the entry way with an eat-in kitchen on the other side. One side of the house has a bedroom in each corner. The other side has a large living room and what was a dining room but functions for us as a library/playroom. It has doors that connect it both to the living room AND to the kitchen/nook area in the middle.
Right now both sets of playroom doors are open all the time and the flow of the house is really nice. In order to facilitate that we have all three kids sharing a room. In their room they have clothes and beds and some stuffed animals. All of their books and toys are stored in the playroom. It works fairly well. I'm hesitant to make this room a bedroom because it disrupts the open feeling of the home. There is another path to the kitchen from the living room (through a door in the kitchen) but the openness of the current plan is just really nice. Another downside to use of this room as a bedroom is that it shares walls with the kitchen and the living room whereas the bedrooms are very nicely isolated from public areas and much quieter (better for naps by far).
But when we start thinking about adding a fourth child, it makes me wonder if we would be better served by separating the kids a bit. DH thinks if this one is a girl that she should have her own room (even as an infant!) although frankly I don't have strong feelings one way or the other in this regard. If it is a boy, he thinks all four should share (just add DS4 to the room with his brothers) which would be a stretch but would work. Although it would be a little hard having an infant, a 2yo, a 6yo and a 10yo all in the same room! (We have a bunk bed with trundle, and a crib in there right now. We have space for a pack n' play or minicrib if necessary.) The other option is separating out the two bigger boys. We could put their bunks in the playroom, keep most of their toys there and still keep it open for play etc. during the day. BUT they could close the doors if they wanted privacy from the littler kids.
What would YOU do? If you had a girl, would you:
a. Give up the playroom and make a nursery/bedroom for her
b. Have her share with her three brothers in the "sleeping area" and maintain the playroom
c. Make her share with her 2yo brother and put the big boys in playroom
d. Put the little kids in the playroom and the big kids in the quiet, more private room.
If you had a BOY would you:
a. Just keep him in the same room with all three brothers
b. Still put the big boys in the playroom and keep the two littles in the quiet bedroom
c. Still put the big boys in the quieter room and keep the littles in the playroom
Essentially, would you convert the playroom to a bedroom? What kids would you put there?
If you've made is this far THANK YOU. I can't tell you how I'm agonizing over this!