Kira's Mommy
07-12-2013, 12:54 AM
And I keep getting it wrong.
My choices are limited as we want the nanny to speak our native language. There is no daycare in the area where teachers speak my native language so daycare isn't an option.
Nanny #1 was with us for almost a year - the 2nd year of DD's life. She seemed ok, but not great. DD was never crazy about her. We let her go because I was starting my mat leave with DS.
Nanny #2 was with us for 4 weeks. She started when I went back to work and DS was 1. She was a former teacher, really good with kids, very responsible. She told me she was 60 at the interview. When I hired her and checked her ID it turned out she was 67. I could tell it was hard for her to keep up with a very active toddler. After 4 weeks she announced she was leaving because she had just found out she had a health condition.
Nanny #3 we hired out of desperation after only 1 week of interviews because we both worked full time and Nanny#2 didn't give us any notice. Nanny #3 seemed awfully strange at the interview but both my kids (DD in particular, although she is in a full-day Montessori right now) LOVED her. The nanny was a foreign trained nurse, her references were perfect. After the initial honeymoon crazy staff started happening. She started moving our furniture, removed our area rugs (all for safety reasons). She would dress DS in his pajamas for walks "because his pjs were organic cotton and his regular clothes weren't". She would overdress DS so "bugs don't bite him". She would be constantly moping my floors (we didn't ask her to do any house work!) while DS was strapped in a high chair. She would speak to DS in broken English instead of our native language (which is her native language too). She removed the mobile from DS room "because it can fall on DS in the event of an earthquake in Toronto!". DH worked from home and kept an eye on her but things got more and more weird.
Today I got a call from my friend who is also a nanny and who comes to our park. The friend said she strongly recommended we find someone else to care for DS. DS is strapped in a stroller all the time during walks, she doesn't talk to him, does not play. She avoids other nannies that are my friends. She always holds his hand when she lets him out of the stroller. She does not allow him to touch certain toys or play on certain play structures in the park for no apparent reason.
Anyways, I'm letting her go tomorrow. I can't get out of my head the image of my very active DS strapped in a stroller in his favourite park, crying. I hate the fact that I have to leave him every morning with some crazy strangers, that I have a job (and like it), I hate myself. I feel so guilty.
Why is that everyone else in my neighbourhood has next to perfect nannies and I keep hiring some crazy weirdoes to care for my DS????? Finding a lifemate was easier that finding a nanny!
That's all. Thank you for reading. I'm going to try and get some sleep tonight although I doubt it's happening.
My choices are limited as we want the nanny to speak our native language. There is no daycare in the area where teachers speak my native language so daycare isn't an option.
Nanny #1 was with us for almost a year - the 2nd year of DD's life. She seemed ok, but not great. DD was never crazy about her. We let her go because I was starting my mat leave with DS.
Nanny #2 was with us for 4 weeks. She started when I went back to work and DS was 1. She was a former teacher, really good with kids, very responsible. She told me she was 60 at the interview. When I hired her and checked her ID it turned out she was 67. I could tell it was hard for her to keep up with a very active toddler. After 4 weeks she announced she was leaving because she had just found out she had a health condition.
Nanny #3 we hired out of desperation after only 1 week of interviews because we both worked full time and Nanny#2 didn't give us any notice. Nanny #3 seemed awfully strange at the interview but both my kids (DD in particular, although she is in a full-day Montessori right now) LOVED her. The nanny was a foreign trained nurse, her references were perfect. After the initial honeymoon crazy staff started happening. She started moving our furniture, removed our area rugs (all for safety reasons). She would dress DS in his pajamas for walks "because his pjs were organic cotton and his regular clothes weren't". She would overdress DS so "bugs don't bite him". She would be constantly moping my floors (we didn't ask her to do any house work!) while DS was strapped in a high chair. She would speak to DS in broken English instead of our native language (which is her native language too). She removed the mobile from DS room "because it can fall on DS in the event of an earthquake in Toronto!". DH worked from home and kept an eye on her but things got more and more weird.
Today I got a call from my friend who is also a nanny and who comes to our park. The friend said she strongly recommended we find someone else to care for DS. DS is strapped in a stroller all the time during walks, she doesn't talk to him, does not play. She avoids other nannies that are my friends. She always holds his hand when she lets him out of the stroller. She does not allow him to touch certain toys or play on certain play structures in the park for no apparent reason.
Anyways, I'm letting her go tomorrow. I can't get out of my head the image of my very active DS strapped in a stroller in his favourite park, crying. I hate the fact that I have to leave him every morning with some crazy strangers, that I have a job (and like it), I hate myself. I feel so guilty.
Why is that everyone else in my neighbourhood has next to perfect nannies and I keep hiring some crazy weirdoes to care for my DS????? Finding a lifemate was easier that finding a nanny!
That's all. Thank you for reading. I'm going to try and get some sleep tonight although I doubt it's happening.