eagle
07-16-2013, 01:07 AM
ds, 3 years old, 4 years in a few months, has been attending half day "camps", which are really just like his half day preschool, but at another facility.
he seems to like his camps. when i ask him if he wants to go, he eagerly replies "yes! i want to go!" he says he likes to play with the trains there.
hes been going now for 2+ weeks. after his first day there, one of the two ladies taking care of the kids (3-4 yos) asked me to bring along "something to occupy him". a toy or two, since he has trouble staying occupied.
i first had the attitude that "thats what im paying for, for 3 hours of you to occupy him" but i sent him there anyway with some toys every day for that first week. i asked every day how he was and i was told various things like "oh, hes such a boy boy, but we did fine" or "we had our rough moments, but we did alright".
i never got these kind of comments from the 3x / week preschool i sent him to this past school year.
i asked the counselors if maybe the camp wasnt a good fit. i had 3 more weeks signed up between then and the beg of august. i wasnt obsessed with keeping him there. i could, reluctantly, just have him in the mornings. but the lady said "oh, no, no. we are doing fine."
i should really just cut to the chase. i know that they are putting him in time outs. he mentions time outs when im with him in the afternoons.
i feel bad about this. but maybe im just overreacting. i dont know how i feel i should feel. he seems to enjoy the mornings. and the counselors say that hes alright, but hes spending a lot of time in time outs.
another thing that is bothering me is that i rarely ever put him in time out. in his 3+ years of life, maybe ive done it 4 times. i wonder if im too lax with him. maybe he is too wild. maybe time outs are fine. lots of kids have them. its normal to give kids a chance to cool off if they dont want to behave.
i dont feel like theyre abusive at this camp. i dont have any weird gut feelings. i just feel sort of sad. and i wonder if i just need to get over it. maybe i need to be stricter. or maybe not. or maybe its just the way it is with this mix of kids and these ladies at this particular time and place. maybe at the preschool we were lucky. or maybe he was given timeouts there too. ive even thought about sending a mesg on fb to the preschool teacher, asking if she ever put my kid in a time out. but i wondered what would i do with that information? so i havent.
for these three years, i really feel ive had things pretty easy. nothing too heavy to deal with. even this issue isnt that big of a deal. but i know that as kids get older, you can deal with heavier and heavier things, like bullying, sex, etc etc etc. i sometimes wonder why i wanted to be a parent so badly. i do get a lot of joy from watching my son grow. he has a sense of humor and he cracks me up every day. but i know theres heavy stuff coming up too. i dont feel like dealing with it now.
maybe im also slightly depressed. other issues on my plate, too. i just wanted to let this out here.
thanks for listening.
he seems to like his camps. when i ask him if he wants to go, he eagerly replies "yes! i want to go!" he says he likes to play with the trains there.
hes been going now for 2+ weeks. after his first day there, one of the two ladies taking care of the kids (3-4 yos) asked me to bring along "something to occupy him". a toy or two, since he has trouble staying occupied.
i first had the attitude that "thats what im paying for, for 3 hours of you to occupy him" but i sent him there anyway with some toys every day for that first week. i asked every day how he was and i was told various things like "oh, hes such a boy boy, but we did fine" or "we had our rough moments, but we did alright".
i never got these kind of comments from the 3x / week preschool i sent him to this past school year.
i asked the counselors if maybe the camp wasnt a good fit. i had 3 more weeks signed up between then and the beg of august. i wasnt obsessed with keeping him there. i could, reluctantly, just have him in the mornings. but the lady said "oh, no, no. we are doing fine."
i should really just cut to the chase. i know that they are putting him in time outs. he mentions time outs when im with him in the afternoons.
i feel bad about this. but maybe im just overreacting. i dont know how i feel i should feel. he seems to enjoy the mornings. and the counselors say that hes alright, but hes spending a lot of time in time outs.
another thing that is bothering me is that i rarely ever put him in time out. in his 3+ years of life, maybe ive done it 4 times. i wonder if im too lax with him. maybe he is too wild. maybe time outs are fine. lots of kids have them. its normal to give kids a chance to cool off if they dont want to behave.
i dont feel like theyre abusive at this camp. i dont have any weird gut feelings. i just feel sort of sad. and i wonder if i just need to get over it. maybe i need to be stricter. or maybe not. or maybe its just the way it is with this mix of kids and these ladies at this particular time and place. maybe at the preschool we were lucky. or maybe he was given timeouts there too. ive even thought about sending a mesg on fb to the preschool teacher, asking if she ever put my kid in a time out. but i wondered what would i do with that information? so i havent.
for these three years, i really feel ive had things pretty easy. nothing too heavy to deal with. even this issue isnt that big of a deal. but i know that as kids get older, you can deal with heavier and heavier things, like bullying, sex, etc etc etc. i sometimes wonder why i wanted to be a parent so badly. i do get a lot of joy from watching my son grow. he has a sense of humor and he cracks me up every day. but i know theres heavy stuff coming up too. i dont feel like dealing with it now.
maybe im also slightly depressed. other issues on my plate, too. i just wanted to let this out here.
thanks for listening.