smilequeen
07-18-2013, 12:01 PM
This is making me so sad :(
DS1 has started to obsess over his weight. He's asking me how to lose weight. Telling me he doesn't like his belly. I don't know what started this :(
He is at a healthy weight. He's a more athletic, muscular build, but his BMI is in the healthy range. He gets a lot of exercise, plays a lot of sports, is very strong and fit. He's talented at sports, gets presidential scores on the fitness testing at school.
He's been in hockey camp the last few weeks and coming home and wanting to use the treadmill or go to extra skating sessions. I catch him getting on the scale.
I talked to him about healthy eating and exercise. We talked about snack food choices. I let him know that he was at a healthy weight and is a healthy kid, and that I just want him to keep making his healthy choices. It's not healthy for him to LOSE weight and he is just a body type more like mine. He is muscular. Building muscle will probably always be easy for him. I just don't know what to say to him. In reality, we keep a fairly healthy diet, but it could certainly be better and I can work on that, but I don't want him to obsess about this. And it's not even a problem! He's at a healthy weight, he's just on the higher end of that range instead of the lower end. He also seems to be gearing up to get a little taller. He's grown 1/2 inch in the past few weeks.
Ughh. I've always been like this. I was built like him from puberty on, and as a girl, that sucked. But I guess I think of this body shape as being a more positive thing for a boy...he looks like he'll grow up to be a strong athletic guy. Maybe I need to adjust my thinking.
What do I do with this??? I didn't expect this.
DS1 has started to obsess over his weight. He's asking me how to lose weight. Telling me he doesn't like his belly. I don't know what started this :(
He is at a healthy weight. He's a more athletic, muscular build, but his BMI is in the healthy range. He gets a lot of exercise, plays a lot of sports, is very strong and fit. He's talented at sports, gets presidential scores on the fitness testing at school.
He's been in hockey camp the last few weeks and coming home and wanting to use the treadmill or go to extra skating sessions. I catch him getting on the scale.
I talked to him about healthy eating and exercise. We talked about snack food choices. I let him know that he was at a healthy weight and is a healthy kid, and that I just want him to keep making his healthy choices. It's not healthy for him to LOSE weight and he is just a body type more like mine. He is muscular. Building muscle will probably always be easy for him. I just don't know what to say to him. In reality, we keep a fairly healthy diet, but it could certainly be better and I can work on that, but I don't want him to obsess about this. And it's not even a problem! He's at a healthy weight, he's just on the higher end of that range instead of the lower end. He also seems to be gearing up to get a little taller. He's grown 1/2 inch in the past few weeks.
Ughh. I've always been like this. I was built like him from puberty on, and as a girl, that sucked. But I guess I think of this body shape as being a more positive thing for a boy...he looks like he'll grow up to be a strong athletic guy. Maybe I need to adjust my thinking.
What do I do with this??? I didn't expect this.