Still-in-Shock
07-19-2013, 04:37 PM
DH was at a conference for work all week, and flew home last night. I was happy that he would finally get to go to an ultrasound for our baby. He had to work the other during the other 2. After the ultrasound, our carrier had a doctor's appt. to review the results, which we could also attend, and then he and I had an appt with the head of labor and delivery at the hospital where the baby will be born.
So the radiology dept is running late, and after the ultrasound, DH starts getting antsy because he has a meeting this afternoon. I said, call them to let them know you are running late. And then I get a whole story about people's schedules and how everyone was already working around him.
Well, D1c<he@d, what about MY schedule? And how many people get to talk to a hospital dept. head about the birth of their child? And how many women would let another woman carry a baby for them?
So we rush through the meeting, don't get a tour to find out where we will be, we leave the hospital without knowing whose last name will be on the baby's bracelet (because of insurance)., and without knowing if we need to preregister. But I did find out that the surrogate doesn't want us in the delivery room, which is her perogative. And that she doesn't plan to visit the baby after it's born. I am still processing that I had to hear this from the hospital, instead of from her.
In the car, he calls work to say he will be late, and then gets mad because I am pointing out where to go to exit the hospital. And then he wants to talk about the ultrasound. Sorry, dear, I'm glad your baby is healthy, but there is a lot of stuff that you are dumping in my lap, and I just lost my chance to get that done.
I feel like telling him to install the nursery in his office.
So the radiology dept is running late, and after the ultrasound, DH starts getting antsy because he has a meeting this afternoon. I said, call them to let them know you are running late. And then I get a whole story about people's schedules and how everyone was already working around him.
Well, D1c<he@d, what about MY schedule? And how many people get to talk to a hospital dept. head about the birth of their child? And how many women would let another woman carry a baby for them?
So we rush through the meeting, don't get a tour to find out where we will be, we leave the hospital without knowing whose last name will be on the baby's bracelet (because of insurance)., and without knowing if we need to preregister. But I did find out that the surrogate doesn't want us in the delivery room, which is her perogative. And that she doesn't plan to visit the baby after it's born. I am still processing that I had to hear this from the hospital, instead of from her.
In the car, he calls work to say he will be late, and then gets mad because I am pointing out where to go to exit the hospital. And then he wants to talk about the ultrasound. Sorry, dear, I'm glad your baby is healthy, but there is a lot of stuff that you are dumping in my lap, and I just lost my chance to get that done.
I feel like telling him to install the nursery in his office.