Ask neighbor to return something after 2 years?

[L'sMommy]

So I think I know the answer but would you ask a neighbor whether they still have the DVD you lent them ~2 years ago? I know I should have made a copy for her instead of giving the original. I just don't want to spend $30 again. WWYD? I have a good relationship with this family, our kids play nicely together.

[Philly Mom]

As the neighbor, it would make me feel very awkward and guilty. I may not even remember the DVD. If I did, I would probably have given it back.

[JenChem]

I'd ask, if it makes her feel awkward then that's too bad. I'd rather be asked for it back than have you not tell me and possibly hold it against me.

[SnuggleBuggles]

Ask! They probably just forgot. I've been the guilty party in this scenario.

[waitingforgrace]

I'd ask but very casually. "Hey neighbor, you remember when you borrowed whatever movie? I thought you returned it but I can't find it anywhere. Do you still happen to have it? Would you mind checking for us? Thanks!"

[KpbS]

I'd definitely ask since you have a relationship with the family. Most likely it just got mixed into their family's dvds. No biggie.

[L'sMommy]

Lol. I thought everyone would tell me to suck it up and buy the DVD again. It's a kids DVD and now I want to use it for my youngest. I think I will casually ask. I am sure she forgot.

[TwinFoxes]

I'd definitely ask since you have a relationship with the family. Most likely it just got mixed into their family's dvds. No biggie.

:yeahthat: I wouldn't think twice if you asked me.

[petesgirl]

I'd ask but very casually. "Hey neighbor, you remember when you borrowed whatever movie? I thought you returned it but I can't find it anywhere. Do you still happen to have it? Would you mind checking for us? Thanks!"

I really like this type of script. She shouldn't be offended at all. My mom would borrow vhs tapes when I was young and keep those for months on end. Every time she saw the neighbors she would say, 'oh we still have such and such movie!'

[ZeeBaby]

I like waiting for Grace's speech as well. It doesn't make any accusations and actually puts the blame on the person asking for it.

[tropicalmom]

I'd ask but very casually. "Hey neighbor, you remember when you borrowed whatever movie? I thought you returned it but I can't find it anywhere. Do you still happen to have it? Would you mind checking for us? Thanks!"

:yeahthat: