Raidra
08-01-2013, 09:50 AM
Lachlann's birthday party is this weekend. We had invited five families at the start. One family couldn't make it, and I got positive RSVPs from the others. Well, yesterday while our kids were all in art class, one of the moms told me that she was canceling because they wanted to go camping instead. She said there hadn't been any nice weekends so far this summer (not quite true, but maybe her husband couldn't take time off around the other ones) and they haven't been camping at all yet (pretty sure that's not true, either, but I'm not positive). She outright told me that she put it to a vote to her kids, and they chose camping over Lachlann's birthday party.
First of all, I'm annoyed that she was so blunt about why she was canceling. Not that I'd prefer to be lied to, but.. I dunno. It just feels like it's rude to tell someone, "Hey, we got the opportunity to do something we like more, so see ya!" And secondly, I think it's terribly rude to cancel on a birthday party for something not urgent. There have been plenty of birthday parties that I wish I could have canceled on, but we went anyway. A birthday party isn't just a playdate at the park.. I feel indignant on Lachlann's behalf that one of his good friends didn't feel like celebrating his birthday. I guess my mama bear has been roused.
To complicate issues, I have a love/hate relationship with this woman. In that.. I desperately want her to like me, we do get along great, our kids love each other.. but I'm always pursuing things. We have a lovely time when we're together, but she never calls to set up a playdate. I hate the feeling of inferiority I have when we hang out, but I can't help really liking her and wanting her to approve of me. It's sick, and I'm working on it in therapy.. but I'm having a really hard time with this rejection. It feels like something's she's done before, for another one of our parties, but I can't remember clearly enough.
And... I got really into Lachlann's party theme this year (Super Mario) and have been working my butt off with decorations, food, etc. And if it's just a few people, it feels like.. what's the point? I know that's unhealthy thinking, that the point is to make Lachlann happy and to enjoy the crafting myself, that I don't do it to get pats on the back from friends.. but.. yeah.
Anyway.. thanks for listening. :)
First of all, I'm annoyed that she was so blunt about why she was canceling. Not that I'd prefer to be lied to, but.. I dunno. It just feels like it's rude to tell someone, "Hey, we got the opportunity to do something we like more, so see ya!" And secondly, I think it's terribly rude to cancel on a birthday party for something not urgent. There have been plenty of birthday parties that I wish I could have canceled on, but we went anyway. A birthday party isn't just a playdate at the park.. I feel indignant on Lachlann's behalf that one of his good friends didn't feel like celebrating his birthday. I guess my mama bear has been roused.
To complicate issues, I have a love/hate relationship with this woman. In that.. I desperately want her to like me, we do get along great, our kids love each other.. but I'm always pursuing things. We have a lovely time when we're together, but she never calls to set up a playdate. I hate the feeling of inferiority I have when we hang out, but I can't help really liking her and wanting her to approve of me. It's sick, and I'm working on it in therapy.. but I'm having a really hard time with this rejection. It feels like something's she's done before, for another one of our parties, but I can't remember clearly enough.
And... I got really into Lachlann's party theme this year (Super Mario) and have been working my butt off with decorations, food, etc. And if it's just a few people, it feels like.. what's the point? I know that's unhealthy thinking, that the point is to make Lachlann happy and to enjoy the crafting myself, that I don't do it to get pats on the back from friends.. but.. yeah.
Anyway.. thanks for listening. :)