Sweetum
08-07-2013, 01:00 AM
One DH's relatives, really close cousin, had a baby a few weeks ago. Given how close she is we thought she would be asking us more stuff. She didn't and we figured she wants to do it her way. And that's me. I like to do things my way and I understood that. She asked for a bunch of baby stuff and we gave her all we had. I had a conversation with her over the weekend, just checking in and asked who her ped was. she told me a name, and told me that that was a referral from someone really really not close to them. Never once had she asked us about our ped. And I mentioned to her that I had interviewed a couple and then decided. And she defended herself saying she just got the referrals and went from there.
This is someone who knows about DS' issues and I know that she was trying to avoid all similarities. While that in itself made me sad, I didn't let it affect me and my attitude towards her and never pushed any advice on her unless she asked for it. But today it just felt like a slap when she told me about some random people's recommendation, that she had not even met the ped in person before her DS was born, and was actually defensive about it.
I know some of you think that I am probably too sensitive about DS' disability, and I am. I cannot help but be sensitive to how some of this family looks at him and tries to avoid him. It just makes me feel sad for DS, for myself (yeah self pity...!) and for my family - that we are considered such a broken family/parents and there is nothing I can do to change it and there is nothing that I can do to avoid them. honestly, that crossed my mind too...
anyways, b!tCh over. back to regular programming, I hope.
This is someone who knows about DS' issues and I know that she was trying to avoid all similarities. While that in itself made me sad, I didn't let it affect me and my attitude towards her and never pushed any advice on her unless she asked for it. But today it just felt like a slap when she told me about some random people's recommendation, that she had not even met the ped in person before her DS was born, and was actually defensive about it.
I know some of you think that I am probably too sensitive about DS' disability, and I am. I cannot help but be sensitive to how some of this family looks at him and tries to avoid him. It just makes me feel sad for DS, for myself (yeah self pity...!) and for my family - that we are considered such a broken family/parents and there is nothing I can do to change it and there is nothing that I can do to avoid them. honestly, that crossed my mind too...
anyways, b!tCh over. back to regular programming, I hope.