Globetrotter
08-31-2013, 06:53 PM
DS (10 - is that a preteen?) has had a temper for a while now, but lately it's gotten worse. This summer we spent a lot of time with family and it really got out of control, and it seems to be continuing. For instance, dh corrected something on his paper and he scrunched it up and tore it (granted, there was just one line of work as he had just started). Yesterday his sister pissed him off and he threw a shoe in her direction! The other day he hit her when he perceived teasing, and that of course escalated into a fight. He cannot handle teasing at all, and I'm working with dd to leave him alone.
He doesn't seem to know how to manage his anger, but only in relation to immediate family and, recently, his close cousins :( At school he is an angel, perfectly behaved, never been punished even ONCE since kg. He is the model child there and has tons of friends and was voted the best friend and best behaved lol. Even at home, 99% of the time he is the sweetest thing, plays well with his sister as long as she doesn't tease him, and generally well behaved. However, when he does get very angry he doesn't seem to know how to control it. I think he takes after dh and, to some degree, me as we both have tempers. For us as adults, it's worse when we are stressed and tired.
I have tried to teach him to stop and count to ten, take a deep breath, etc.. but in the heat of the moment I don't think he can handle it his emotions.
I do think sleep may be a bit of an issue since we had a jam-packed summer with lots of late nights and different dynamics since we were visiting family, but he's not taking allergy meds regularly (some allergy meds have caused problems in the past). Just wondering if anyone has suggestions.
He doesn't seem to know how to manage his anger, but only in relation to immediate family and, recently, his close cousins :( At school he is an angel, perfectly behaved, never been punished even ONCE since kg. He is the model child there and has tons of friends and was voted the best friend and best behaved lol. Even at home, 99% of the time he is the sweetest thing, plays well with his sister as long as she doesn't tease him, and generally well behaved. However, when he does get very angry he doesn't seem to know how to control it. I think he takes after dh and, to some degree, me as we both have tempers. For us as adults, it's worse when we are stressed and tired.
I have tried to teach him to stop and count to ten, take a deep breath, etc.. but in the heat of the moment I don't think he can handle it his emotions.
I do think sleep may be a bit of an issue since we had a jam-packed summer with lots of late nights and different dynamics since we were visiting family, but he's not taking allergy meds regularly (some allergy meds have caused problems in the past). Just wondering if anyone has suggestions.