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09-09-2013, 07:08 PM
DD1 is turning 5 in a few weeks and I asked her if she wanted a birthday party since I threw one for her little sister 2 months ago. She said yes but she only wants her cousin. I thought "great", that should be easy enough since all the cousin she's talking about live nearby and there's only 6 of them (3 families). I'm planning on doing the party at my mom's house in the evening after 6pm.
EXCEPT, with everyone busy school and social schedule, I was only able to do it on 9/21. All the other days they already have plans. But my sister doesn't want to do it on the 21st because her daughter (one of the cousins) is moving and going to college on the 22nd. She's only going to a local college that's about 30 min drive but wants to live in the dorms for the college life experience. My sister is saying that she wants to reserve the 21st for last minute packing or purchasing of supplies. She didn't say anything about her having plans to do anything either so she has no plans. But that she wants to do another date. But if i do another date that she wants to do, DD's favorite cousin Jane (course nobody knows she's technically her favorite but she is) wouldn't be able to come.
So I reason with my sister (she has 2 kids) that maybe she can pack or do whatever ahead of time (my sister is not working and her daughter have no school) and that worse case she still have all day morning and afternoon on the 21st? That apparently pissed her off so she wrote everyone an email and said she's can't make it, have fun.
I asked DD and she's ok with it because she said my sister's son is hardly ever comes anyways (and my sister can't guarantee he'll come anyways as he is in his early 20's). I was going to let it go until my BROTHER emails us and starts proposing other dates that through prior emails we already said it doesn't work. So I called him and he said why am I choosing Jne (who is 2 people counting her fiance whom DD also adores) over the 4 people for my sister? So I tried to explain that my sister doesn't have anything planned and she can technically make it but he just kept saying "she already said that date doesn't work" etc.
So frustrated I just said What? I'm supposed to pick? Choose my sister (who by the way is very flaky and even if we go according to the date she wants, there's no guarantee she won't call me a few days to say something came up) or choose Jane? He just said what I'm doing isn't "right"
What would you do?? Doing it after 9/21 would automatically mean I'm excluding the cousin that's going to college so that still wouldn't work.
EXCEPT, with everyone busy school and social schedule, I was only able to do it on 9/21. All the other days they already have plans. But my sister doesn't want to do it on the 21st because her daughter (one of the cousins) is moving and going to college on the 22nd. She's only going to a local college that's about 30 min drive but wants to live in the dorms for the college life experience. My sister is saying that she wants to reserve the 21st for last minute packing or purchasing of supplies. She didn't say anything about her having plans to do anything either so she has no plans. But that she wants to do another date. But if i do another date that she wants to do, DD's favorite cousin Jane (course nobody knows she's technically her favorite but she is) wouldn't be able to come.
So I reason with my sister (she has 2 kids) that maybe she can pack or do whatever ahead of time (my sister is not working and her daughter have no school) and that worse case she still have all day morning and afternoon on the 21st? That apparently pissed her off so she wrote everyone an email and said she's can't make it, have fun.
I asked DD and she's ok with it because she said my sister's son is hardly ever comes anyways (and my sister can't guarantee he'll come anyways as he is in his early 20's). I was going to let it go until my BROTHER emails us and starts proposing other dates that through prior emails we already said it doesn't work. So I called him and he said why am I choosing Jne (who is 2 people counting her fiance whom DD also adores) over the 4 people for my sister? So I tried to explain that my sister doesn't have anything planned and she can technically make it but he just kept saying "she already said that date doesn't work" etc.
So frustrated I just said What? I'm supposed to pick? Choose my sister (who by the way is very flaky and even if we go according to the date she wants, there's no guarantee she won't call me a few days to say something came up) or choose Jane? He just said what I'm doing isn't "right"
What would you do?? Doing it after 9/21 would automatically mean I'm excluding the cousin that's going to college so that still wouldn't work.