vejemom
10-29-2013, 05:32 PM
I guess this is related to attempting to purchase a house. That's what set me off. But I just feel grumpy and blah about life in general at the moment. And I feel like I've unloaded so much on my IRL friends.
Why can't the two mortgage lenders agree on what I can borrow? I got a pre-approval letter from the one who is supposed to be the most experienced. I made an offer on a house and it was accepted. Great, right? Except the other lender I consulted with thinks that there are a couple of joint debts on my credit history (that get paid by my ex) that are an issue and that I'd be lucky to squeak through with an FHA loan. I've (I hope) revealed all potential credit problems to the lender that wrote the pre-approval. I've asked her several times if she's sure it will work. She insists it will. Why are they at polar opposites? Who am I supposed to believe? I have an inspection scheduled for Friday, and I sure hope I'm not wasting my money on an inspection for a house that it turns out I can't get a mortgage for.
Which brings me to my ex and his financial issues. How can anyone make so much money and be out of cash all the time? My ex moved heaven and earth to pay his first ex support on time. Even if it meant I was scrounging in the sofa cushions for milk money. Why is paying me suddenly optional? Because I'm a pleasant person and not apt to run into court about it? Why did he think it was a necessity to send his oldest to a $50K a year private school taking a bunch of stupid loans out to do it. Why did he agree to sign on loans for her to go to private college? Why is paying college tuition and taking girlfriends and teenaged kids out for dinner more important than paying to support your younger ones? And I'm mad at myself for not putting my foot down years ago and insisting he control his spending. Now it's come back to burn me.
And it has nothing to do with houses and finance, but damn it, I am overdue to find someone nice in the dating department. And I am soooo tired of attempting to juggle work and unreliable babysitters.
That is all. Thanks for listening :)
Why can't the two mortgage lenders agree on what I can borrow? I got a pre-approval letter from the one who is supposed to be the most experienced. I made an offer on a house and it was accepted. Great, right? Except the other lender I consulted with thinks that there are a couple of joint debts on my credit history (that get paid by my ex) that are an issue and that I'd be lucky to squeak through with an FHA loan. I've (I hope) revealed all potential credit problems to the lender that wrote the pre-approval. I've asked her several times if she's sure it will work. She insists it will. Why are they at polar opposites? Who am I supposed to believe? I have an inspection scheduled for Friday, and I sure hope I'm not wasting my money on an inspection for a house that it turns out I can't get a mortgage for.
Which brings me to my ex and his financial issues. How can anyone make so much money and be out of cash all the time? My ex moved heaven and earth to pay his first ex support on time. Even if it meant I was scrounging in the sofa cushions for milk money. Why is paying me suddenly optional? Because I'm a pleasant person and not apt to run into court about it? Why did he think it was a necessity to send his oldest to a $50K a year private school taking a bunch of stupid loans out to do it. Why did he agree to sign on loans for her to go to private college? Why is paying college tuition and taking girlfriends and teenaged kids out for dinner more important than paying to support your younger ones? And I'm mad at myself for not putting my foot down years ago and insisting he control his spending. Now it's come back to burn me.
And it has nothing to do with houses and finance, but damn it, I am overdue to find someone nice in the dating department. And I am soooo tired of attempting to juggle work and unreliable babysitters.
That is all. Thanks for listening :)