niccig
11-10-2013, 10:18 PM
DS swapped to our local school and he's doing very well with the transition socially. Has group of friends, no real complaints about going to school. Academically, he's doing well too - got all proficient on Math and Language Arts tests. Teacher confirmed his mistakes were small mistakes and not ones of not understanding. eg. in math questions he made some small errors. Teacher thinks it's more test taking strategies of checking work, crossing off words used in fill in blank so don't repeat etc. He's never taken tests like this before, so it is all new to him.
It's what I see on his homework. He'll have 8 math problems of multiplying money by single digit. I check and on 2 he made mistake with the multiplication. I tell him to check the 2, he can find the mistake and self-correct. Same with language arts homework, mostly correct 1 or 2 errors, he can self-correct. But DS says he's a failure. He's doing a poster of Harry Potter for a book report and because he can't copy the picture exactly as it is on the cover, he's a failure, he throws his pencils, scrunches up the paper etc. I can't draw at all, I draw stick figures that all look the same, I can't copy that damn picture at all.
I don't know how to deal with the "I'm a failure" and the meltdown. No one is perfect. I've been showing him my exams from grad school. I haven't gotten 100% on anything. We don't expect 100%. We know that he has different academic expectations and he'll take time to get used to the tests. But he won't give himself time.
It's what I see on his homework. He'll have 8 math problems of multiplying money by single digit. I check and on 2 he made mistake with the multiplication. I tell him to check the 2, he can find the mistake and self-correct. Same with language arts homework, mostly correct 1 or 2 errors, he can self-correct. But DS says he's a failure. He's doing a poster of Harry Potter for a book report and because he can't copy the picture exactly as it is on the cover, he's a failure, he throws his pencils, scrunches up the paper etc. I can't draw at all, I draw stick figures that all look the same, I can't copy that damn picture at all.
I don't know how to deal with the "I'm a failure" and the meltdown. No one is perfect. I've been showing him my exams from grad school. I haven't gotten 100% on anything. We don't expect 100%. We know that he has different academic expectations and he'll take time to get used to the tests. But he won't give himself time.