PunkyBoo
11-11-2013, 01:16 PM
UPDATE IN POST #10.
I posted asking for advice on Boo's behavior a while back. He suddenly became really defiant and aggressive mid-to-late summer and was getting in a lot of trouble at preschool. He was acting out at home too, hitting and spitting at us and our nanny too. It was really bad and at the preschool director's advice I asked his ped who referred us to a behavior specialist. The soonest appointment I could get is now coming up toward the end of this month.
We have had huge improvements at home by giving him lots more patience, positive reinforcement, and diverting him when we see the signs that we're headed toward a tantrum. But things were still bad at school and we ended up changing him to a new preschool on Nov. 1. He seems to be SOOOO much happier there, we think the philosophy at the new school fits his personality much better. His new teachers have said he's a good listener and cooperative. The mother of one of his new classmates stopped me at pick up last week to tell me what a sweet boy he is and how glad she is that her daughter has found him as a new friend.
We strongly suspect that the bulk of the negative behaviors were due to a "personality clash" between him and his old teacher at the old school. He was clearly unhappy there and acting out as a result. The negative behaviors we see now seem age appropriate and "normal" but he has only been at the new school for 7 days now. I don't want to put him (or myself) through the behavior evaluation if things are pretty much resolved due to the school change. Our nanny think he is fine now and age appropriate. So I want to cancel the appointment BUT I'm worried that things will get tough again and then we'll have to make a new appointment that would be months away again. WWYD?
I posted asking for advice on Boo's behavior a while back. He suddenly became really defiant and aggressive mid-to-late summer and was getting in a lot of trouble at preschool. He was acting out at home too, hitting and spitting at us and our nanny too. It was really bad and at the preschool director's advice I asked his ped who referred us to a behavior specialist. The soonest appointment I could get is now coming up toward the end of this month.
We have had huge improvements at home by giving him lots more patience, positive reinforcement, and diverting him when we see the signs that we're headed toward a tantrum. But things were still bad at school and we ended up changing him to a new preschool on Nov. 1. He seems to be SOOOO much happier there, we think the philosophy at the new school fits his personality much better. His new teachers have said he's a good listener and cooperative. The mother of one of his new classmates stopped me at pick up last week to tell me what a sweet boy he is and how glad she is that her daughter has found him as a new friend.
We strongly suspect that the bulk of the negative behaviors were due to a "personality clash" between him and his old teacher at the old school. He was clearly unhappy there and acting out as a result. The negative behaviors we see now seem age appropriate and "normal" but he has only been at the new school for 7 days now. I don't want to put him (or myself) through the behavior evaluation if things are pretty much resolved due to the school change. Our nanny think he is fine now and age appropriate. So I want to cancel the appointment BUT I'm worried that things will get tough again and then we'll have to make a new appointment that would be months away again. WWYD?