lizzywednesday
11-26-2013, 03:01 PM
So, three days before our annual photo shoot with our children, my sister texts me that our SIL is "mean" and our one nephew is "too rough" with her DS1.
Yes, I admit that our DN is rather rambunctious. It's partially normal and partially, I think, socialization. In that he doesn't really socialize with other children, so he gets overstimulated about our kids visiting. He is 3. Not 10. THREE. And your DS1 is 4 and a freaking wuss. (Yes. I said it. I love the kid, but he is a wuss.)
The DN1 has been rough with my DD, too, but they work it out. She's also a tough little bugger who will give him every bit of what-for if he's rough with her. And I honestly don't think that's a problem. (They haven't killed each other yet!)
And, yes, it's rough when you see him trying to play roughly with your DS2. I would be concerned, too. But your plan of action is to remove DS2 from the area, and you let DN1's parents deal with the discipline.
But being passive-aggressive about it - "please don't repeat what I said about them" - is really effing ridiculous. I really, really, REALLY, want to tell them, but I promised not to and I don't want to lie.
I promised to be on the lookout. And I also told her she really ought to talk to our brother about it.
"Well, I'll give DN1 one chance but if it gets out of hand, I'll talk do DB."
Good. You do that. But don't get me involved for you being such a passive-aggressive wimp. If you have a problem with someone, JUST EFFING TELL THEM and work it out.
Yes, I admit that our DN is rather rambunctious. It's partially normal and partially, I think, socialization. In that he doesn't really socialize with other children, so he gets overstimulated about our kids visiting. He is 3. Not 10. THREE. And your DS1 is 4 and a freaking wuss. (Yes. I said it. I love the kid, but he is a wuss.)
The DN1 has been rough with my DD, too, but they work it out. She's also a tough little bugger who will give him every bit of what-for if he's rough with her. And I honestly don't think that's a problem. (They haven't killed each other yet!)
And, yes, it's rough when you see him trying to play roughly with your DS2. I would be concerned, too. But your plan of action is to remove DS2 from the area, and you let DN1's parents deal with the discipline.
But being passive-aggressive about it - "please don't repeat what I said about them" - is really effing ridiculous. I really, really, REALLY, want to tell them, but I promised not to and I don't want to lie.
I promised to be on the lookout. And I also told her she really ought to talk to our brother about it.
"Well, I'll give DN1 one chance but if it gets out of hand, I'll talk do DB."
Good. You do that. But don't get me involved for you being such a passive-aggressive wimp. If you have a problem with someone, JUST EFFING TELL THEM and work it out.