misshollygolightly
12-10-2013, 10:21 PM
Oh wise parents of the BBB, I need some new tools in my parenting toolkit! DS is 5.5 yo and started Kindy this fall. We're really struggling with him, both at school and at home. At school, teachers say he is very bright (acing the weekly spelling tests, reading well, knows all the answers, etc.), but he's being very disruptive (his teacher uses a color chart for behavior and he started out great at the beginning of the year, but for weeks now he's almost always on yellow, orange, or red due to being disruptive and disobedient). He shouts out the answers, won't wait his turn, interrupts teachers and kids, etc. Nothing violent or nasty, but disruptive and not ok. Most frustrating of all, to me anyway, is that he's always in trouble for the same exact things! He won't or can't or doesn't want to change his behavior! I don't get it.
At home, well, phew. These past couple of weeks (maybe two months?) he's REALLY been pushing us, to put it mildly. Extremely stubborn and insistent, impatient, interrupting, disobeying, won't stay put during time-outs, banging on his door to wake his sister when he's in time-out, etc. He has an extremely short fuse--it seems like he almost immediately goes straight to whining or tantruming over virtually everything! He pitches ENORMOUS tantrums--clearly he's having a lot of trouble controlling himself and moderating his reactions to things, but I'm not sure how to help him and he doesn't want my help. Nothing I do seems to make a difference.
Things we've tried: time outs, incentives for good behavior (dessert after dinner on days he makes it to green or higher on the school color chart; small surprises for multiple days of good behavior in a row, etc.), taking away toys/privileges/things he cares about for bad behavior, verbally praising him for good behavior, etc. I've tried hugging him firmly to try to help him calm down from a tantrum and I've tried leaving him alone to calm down on his own--neither seems to work! I'm sure there are other things as well, but I can't think of them right now. It doesn't sound like he pitches tantrums at school--pretty sure he saves those just for us. Hit me with your best strategies for dealing with a 5.5 yo boy who has turned into a little monster! I'm really afraid that his bad behavior is becoming the norm for him.
At home, well, phew. These past couple of weeks (maybe two months?) he's REALLY been pushing us, to put it mildly. Extremely stubborn and insistent, impatient, interrupting, disobeying, won't stay put during time-outs, banging on his door to wake his sister when he's in time-out, etc. He has an extremely short fuse--it seems like he almost immediately goes straight to whining or tantruming over virtually everything! He pitches ENORMOUS tantrums--clearly he's having a lot of trouble controlling himself and moderating his reactions to things, but I'm not sure how to help him and he doesn't want my help. Nothing I do seems to make a difference.
Things we've tried: time outs, incentives for good behavior (dessert after dinner on days he makes it to green or higher on the school color chart; small surprises for multiple days of good behavior in a row, etc.), taking away toys/privileges/things he cares about for bad behavior, verbally praising him for good behavior, etc. I've tried hugging him firmly to try to help him calm down from a tantrum and I've tried leaving him alone to calm down on his own--neither seems to work! I'm sure there are other things as well, but I can't think of them right now. It doesn't sound like he pitches tantrums at school--pretty sure he saves those just for us. Hit me with your best strategies for dealing with a 5.5 yo boy who has turned into a little monster! I'm really afraid that his bad behavior is becoming the norm for him.