lizzywednesday
12-20-2013, 01:12 PM
Let me preface this by saying that I know my DH is a good guy who really makes a huge effort to make DD and I feel loved, secure, and safe. And I know that he really went the extra mile for me for Christmas this year.
But, when I told him last night that I hadn't gotten him anything for Christmas (and what I did get wasn't on his list, but I still think he'll like it) and started to apologize, the first words out of his mouth were "what happened?"
REALLY?
After we had the gift-grabby nephew at Sunday's family party? With whom BOTH of us had a quiet word about how, perhaps, he'd missed the point of Christmas, and maybe it would still be Christmas without presents? (I think his excitement and the way he's expressing it is developmentally appropriate at 7-going-on-8, but it really rubbed DH and me the wrong way.)
Yes, I have cash-flow issues this time of year, but it's especially horrible this year.
This month sucked - I had to be in my hometown three days in a row for funeral stuff and then rehearsal.
When you don't come up with a list of "wants" or "could use" stuff until the week AFTER Thanksgiving (which is when my grandmother died), I can't shop for you bit-by-bit.
When you also start to harass me about food shopping and forget that I'm the one who buys gifts for your nieces, one of whom never writes "thank you" notes (or even expresses the least bit of gratitude), and nephew (who cornered us both with the gift-grabbiness) as well as for DD, MY nephews, and tries to keep it together so as not to bounce the effing daycare check, I kind of feel like **** already.
But asking me "what happened?"
Seriously? SERIOUSLY?
Next year, you can do the shopping, cards, errand running, and all that other sh!t. I'm frigging done.
But, when I told him last night that I hadn't gotten him anything for Christmas (and what I did get wasn't on his list, but I still think he'll like it) and started to apologize, the first words out of his mouth were "what happened?"
REALLY?
After we had the gift-grabby nephew at Sunday's family party? With whom BOTH of us had a quiet word about how, perhaps, he'd missed the point of Christmas, and maybe it would still be Christmas without presents? (I think his excitement and the way he's expressing it is developmentally appropriate at 7-going-on-8, but it really rubbed DH and me the wrong way.)
Yes, I have cash-flow issues this time of year, but it's especially horrible this year.
This month sucked - I had to be in my hometown three days in a row for funeral stuff and then rehearsal.
When you don't come up with a list of "wants" or "could use" stuff until the week AFTER Thanksgiving (which is when my grandmother died), I can't shop for you bit-by-bit.
When you also start to harass me about food shopping and forget that I'm the one who buys gifts for your nieces, one of whom never writes "thank you" notes (or even expresses the least bit of gratitude), and nephew (who cornered us both with the gift-grabbiness) as well as for DD, MY nephews, and tries to keep it together so as not to bounce the effing daycare check, I kind of feel like **** already.
But asking me "what happened?"
Seriously? SERIOUSLY?
Next year, you can do the shopping, cards, errand running, and all that other sh!t. I'm frigging done.