How long did it take you to get pregnant w/o health problems or interventions,

[ourbabygirl]

especially if you got pregnant at or after age 35?
With our first it took us 11 months, and that was with reading TCOYF, charting, OPKs, some hypnotherapy, and a fertility work-up (on my side and DH's), but no medications or extra help like IUI or IVF (we were also under age 30).
Our second was an 'oopsie baby-' I wasn't on birth control for a month or so, and we got lazy/ forgetful about protection (plus since it took a while to conceive our first, I'm sure we weren't thinking it would happen so quickly).
We're thinking of giving it another try this year, and this time I'm putting a lot more thought into when to start TTC to *try* to have better timing with a due date if I'm able to get pregnant again (though this time I'll be AMA). Of course, we make plans, and God laughs. ;) Just wondering if there's any way to predict how long it might take for it to happen... I thought I'd read back when we went to the fertility clinic that they will treat you if you're over 35 and have been TTC for 6 months or more (versus 12 months or more if you're under 35). Not sure we'd even want to go down that road, but I'm wondering how soon it could happen if I do my homework beforehand with charting temps & CM, etc. I hate having to be so "scientific" about the whole thing, but I guess time isn't really on my side as much.

Thanks for sharing!

Feel free to vote for multiple options on the poll (to account for miscarriages and/or multiple children), or just once if you had one pregnancy over age 35, or one pregnancy when you TTC the longest

[WatchingThemGrow]

I like that you already know how we make plans and God laughs. We had no plans of our own, but we got pg on our honeymoon and every opportunity thereafter for the next few years. We married at 35 so it was AMA every time. Totally wasn't expecting to have it happen that way.

[DietCokeLover]

Got pg with DD at age 35 on the first try. I had been charting to avoid pregnancy for a year or so, then switched and got pg. At 36, I got pg with DS on our first time together post DD, so at 6 wks post partum and nursing. DS was born 11 months after DD was born.

[BDKmom]

With DS, it took 11 months. I was 33-34 and part of it was just getting to know my body and my cycles and get our timing down. I can't remember how long it took us to realize it wouldn't necessarily "just happen" because we weren't using birth control. Eventually I started using ovulation kits and I want to say it still took about 5 months to get a BFP.

With DD, I got pregnant the first month we tried, and I was 36. I used an OPK, so I knew that I was ovulating, but DH and I were still shocked that it happened that quickly.

[scrooks]

I was 31 when I conceived dd on the first try. Ds1 took 3 months, I was 33. I had 2 losses between ds1 and ds2. It seemed to take a few more months to conceive each time. With ds2 I was 36 when we were attempting to conceive. I was under the care of an RE (we went there to determine if there was a reason or pattern for my losses- there wasn't) and she offered to put me on Clomid knowing we were kind of at the end of our rope trying for a third child but were willing to give it one good try. On our third cycle of Clomid we agreed it would be our last and bingo...I now have a beautiful almost 6 month old son.

[♥ms.pacman♥]

Not long. With DS i got pregnant within the first couple months, and we weren't even trying that hard (no charting or anything, just not using birth control). I was 31. With DD, i think it was our first or second try (and DS was only 6 months old and I was still exclusively nursing him!). DH & I would often joke that if we even have slight inclination to have a 3rd, we shouldn't try at all and assume we'll get an "oops baby" at some point (bc if we tried for a 3rd, we'd get it, and then possibly could have another surprise preg down the road...I don't think we could handle 4 kids).

[twowhat?]

9 months. I sometimes wonder if I ovulate only on one side. I have cycles that alternate back and forth between 25 and 35 days. I was 29.

[AnnieW625]

With DD1 I stopped my birth control in June and I got pregnant in mid to late July. I was 28.

With baby 2 we tried for 6 months before I got pregnant. I don't think I was really ready to have another baby and I think that is why things were harder that time around. I was 31. I started using my monthly planner a month or two before I got pregnant. I had thought about using OPKs, but DH thought we should leave it to nature.

With DD2 she was not planned and I got pregnant four months post loss of baby 2, but I had not been on the pill just about a year then and I know exactly when I got pregnant with her and confirmed it with the mmp website. I was 32.

To be totally honest when I was using MMP.com I was guessing a bit because I had never charted or done temps or anything I just kind of knew when I got my period and went with the default of ovulating X amount of days after your period ended.

eta: I actually think I was pregnant two other times once in 2003 which would have meant I got pregnant on my honeymoon or right after as my period (as I had planned my wedding date so my period was over the weekend before) was over 5 days late even though I was on the pill, but I never tested because I wanted to make sure that I was more than 2 weeks late (part of this was DH was out of work then and I didn't want to stress him out), but I ended up getting my period within a day or two of it being 14 days late. I had also gained 5lbs out of nowhere and as soon as my period ended I lost those 5lbs. I was 25, a few months shy of 26. The second time was in early 2005 and the symptoms were completely similar gained weight out of no where, still on the pill, more than a few days late, but this time I tested a few times and kept getting negatives and then my period was about 14 days or so late as well. I was 27. I got pregnant with DD1 five months later.

[okinawama]

DS1 was the first month of trying and DS 2 was conceived after 2 months of trying. We had been charting to avoid pregnancy for about a year, and then switched over to trying mode, so I knew my fertile signs and exact ovulation date. I was 26 & 28 when I got pregnant.

[Piglet]

This pregnancy, we were TTC when I was 35. It took about 5-6 months. The longest it ever took was a year for DS2 (post-depo provera... Grr!). The shortest was first month of trying with DS1 (DH was disappointed, lol).

[mommyp]

With DS, I was 35 while TTC. It took 4 months. That was the longest for us, with my first pregnancy (miscarried) it was the first month of trying and with DD it was 3 months.

[Beth24]

Longest it took was a year when I was 44. My pregnancies at 31, 33 and 37 were all within a month or two after stopping birth control.

[Melaine]

One try each time, but I was about 25 and then 30.

[schrocat]

Both my 2 post 35 babies were "opps" pregnancies. My third child was conceived at when DS2 was 14 months. He was a "I'm still breastfeeding I don't need birth control" baby. There's a 3 year gap age wise between my third and fourth baby. She was a "I can't believe I got pregnant despite using 2 birth control methods" baby.

[georgiegirl]

With DD, I was 31 and got pregnant on the fourth try.
With DS1, I was 34 and got pregnant on the first try.
With DS2, I was 38 and got pregnant on the third try.

I would say that when our timing was perfect (doing it the day before ovulation or the day of ovulation), our success rate was 50/50.

[mommylamb]

I was 31 when I got pregnant with DS1 and it took 3 months. I was 35 when I got pregnant with DS2 and it took 5 months. Both times I was charting and using all the TCOYF methods, and I used ovulation predictor sticks.

[joonbug]

With DD I got pregnant on the second month of ttc, I was 30. With this one, it was the first month of DH coming on board about having another one and not using bc.. I had just turned 35 couple weeks earlier. Both are VR babies.

[maybeebaby08]

With DD1, first try I was 25 had sex when I knew I was ovulating. After DD1 I had irregular periods, and had a miscarriage when she was 2, we weren't trying to get pregnant just weren't careful with protection. With DD2, I didn't think I could get pregnant because we of my irregular cycles and not always ovulating. One day I knew I was ovulating because I was in pain we had sex and got DD2, I was 29. With this pregnancy we decided to stop using protection for a year, if it happened it happened, we had sex when I thought I was ovulating and it worked the first time, I'm 32.


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[tabegle]

With dd, I had read TCOYF, was temping and charting. I self diagnosed myself with PCOS, the dr said it was due to my thyroid. However, with temping and charting, I did get pregnant the first time I ovulated since I had started charting (6 months maybe?). (age 30)

With DS, my thyroid was under control, I was breastfeeding, I got pregnant the first month I was able to calculate my cycle length and the best time for conception. (age 31)

This pregnancy, I used internet cheapie OPKs and got pregnant the first month.(age 35)

[Staraglimmer]

With DD2 it took 6 months, I was 29.


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[hellokitty]

With DS1, it took 2 yrs, 3 m/c's and then finally a round of clomid, plus progesterone to get and stay pregnant. I was a couple months shy of 31 when he was born. I was told by my ob and my RE that I had, "bad luck." I had a LPD and my RE felt that I had PCOS (ob disagreed), that played into my issues, but I was very annoyed that the RE was very slow about the whole process, dragging it out. She wanted to do every single test, I suspect to charge me for every single penny that she could (I was down to having to get a scope to rule out endometriosis, but I was balking at having to have surgery), before she would do anything about it. During that time, I had another m/c under her care. Then we moved and there aren't any REs here and my first appt with my ob, I brought my charts and flat out told him I thought I had a LPD, and he agreed with me and said that he wanted to try me on a course of clomid and progesterone and that is what ended up workingfor me.

Due to that experience, we started ttc #2, when DS1 was only 9 mo old, thinking it would take another 2 yrs, etc.. Well, I got pg on the first try and so DS1 and DS2 are only 18 mo apart. Had I known it would happen so easily the second time around, I would have waited until DS1 was at least 2 yrs old to ttc again! I don't recommend that spacing at ALL! It was rough and I was miserable for the first yr after DS2 was born (very high needs, had to be held all of the time, while DS1 was very spirited once he was walking).

With DS3, due to the 18 mo difference of age btwn the first two, DH said that if we had one more, there had to be a minimum of 4 yrs age difference btwn #2 and #3. So, we timed it according to the minimum 4 yr spacing to ttc (not formal ttc, we were basically not trying, but not preventing), and of course I got pregnant the first month. DS2 and DS3 are almost exactly 4 yrs apart. I had DS3 when I was 35. I have had a lot of friends with secondary inferitility, but it seems as if I had the opposite issue, where after I had my first one (and yes, I had read Toni Weschler and was charting, yada, yada), my body started to figure out what to do. I had to take progesterone for DS2's pregnancy too, but for DS3's, I surprisingly did not need any progesterone. I had hyperemesis each time and it progressively gets worse with each subsequent pregnancy, so we knew for sure that #3 would be the last one. I was nauseous before any of the urine pregnancy tests would ring up positive (got a UTI and suspected I was pregnant and they did a medical hpt, which is pretty sensitive, but it still came back negative, it wasn't until a wk later that my hpt came back positive).

[SnuggleBuggles]

Never tried over 30 but ds1 took almost 2 years and 2 months of Clomid (PCOS dx) and just 2 months with ds2.

[Myira]

Got pregnant with DS on the first try, I was 34 turned 35 a month after he was born. All I used was the cheap ovulation tests I ordered on amazon. With DD, I was 31 when TTC and saw a RE because I thought I had issues. Well turned out I just was mis-calculating my fertile window, and again conceived right after the first appointment before she started any investigation.

[123LuckyMom]

It took a long time with DS. I think we got pregnant with the baby we miscarried after a little over a year of trying. Our OB was pushing for fertility treatments, but after six months of trying for DS, I read TCOYF and started charting and paying attention to my body's signals. We got pregnant two or three cycles in, I think, but it had been over two years since we had started TTC. It was pretty quick once I actually got some decent education about how my body works. I was 36 when DS was conceived. I got pregnant on the second cycle with DD. I was 40. We had planned for our kids to be 4 years apart, but they ended up being 3.5 months apart due to quick conception! My cycles are hugely variable (28-52 days), but I have no fertility issues apart from that.

ETA: I really think TCOYF should be required reading for all teenage girls. I feel like I owe my family to that book!

[wallawala]

First baby at 37. Actively trying for over 2 years. Didn't want to do fertility meds. Dr. started me on thyroid meds (asymptomatic and in high but normal range with known but untreated Hashimoto's) and was pregnant 4 months later (had stopped actively "trying")

Second baby at 40. First month we "tried". LOL.

[kdeunc]

I have been pregnant 4 times, all 4 in the first month of "trying". I did not chart, etc. With my first I was concerned that it may take a while because it took my parents ten years to have me. My pregnancies were at 32, 34, 37 (m/c), 37.

[tabegle]

I really think TCOYF should be required reading for all teenage girls.

Totally agree!

[BabyBearsMom]

Not over 35 but:

First pregnancy - Age 27 - 3 months, but ended in miscarriage
DD1 - Age 28 - 9.5 months
DD2 - Age 30 - We tried for 6 months unsuccessfully (and I would say we weren't trying so much as we weren't trying not to get get pregnant, iykwim), then I read TCYF and got pregnant in either 1 or 2 cycles, I can't exactly remember.

[TxCat]

I read TCOYF before each attempt at TTC.

First time we got pregnant on the 2-3rd month of trying - I was 32, and delivered DD2 when I was 33. I didn't really do charting of basal temp or anything.

Second time took us 8 months and I was 35. I think I didn't really do anything for the first month, then I started trying to chart using all the TCOYF methods, and then I started using OPKs after 5 months. I had two m/c's during those 8 months - I think around months 4 and 6 of trying. I started seeing an acupuncturist after the m/c, because I figured that was cheaper than seeing an REI, and I might as well exhaust every option I had. We were planning to start seeing an REI specialist in January, and then I found out that I was pregnant with DD2 in December.

[boogiemomz]

I was 30 when we first tried and I got pregnant the second month. After lots of health issues and surgeries since DD's birth, we had more trouble this time around and ended up doing IVF after about 1.5 years of trying. I'm 35 now.

[essnce629]

ETA: I really think TCOYF should be required reading for all teenage girls. I feel like I owe my family to that book!

I agree as well!




Both my pregnancies were "oopsies" after DTD twice with no protection.

With DS1 I was 21 and with DS2 I was 27. With DS2 I had been successfully charting to avoid pregnancy for 5 years when I ovulated early and got pregnant.

[marymoo86]

Dd2 was an oopsie after DTD ONCE at age 39!

[AngB]

FWIW, not all RE's will even go by those standards. My RE saw me pretty early when we were trying to get pregnant with DS1 (maybe 6 months in at age 24) because it was obvious I was not ovulating regularly and my cycles were funky. I actually got consults from a few different RE's and none of them had any problem with me being there even though we hadn't been trying for a year.

DD was 1.5 years, I wasn't ovulating regularly and it was more of a fluke thing. DS1 we were desperately wanting to get pregnant again after losing DD and jumped into treatments fairly quickly, maybe after 3 months (I started with a different fertility clinic before I switched to my RE.), DS2 was my first cycle trying while still bf'ing DS1 and 9 months postpartum--my story is similar to HelloKitty, and holy cow that kid is also very very high maintenance. We are planning for one more and thinking of trying towards the end of summer so they would be about 2.5 yrs apart. (Would love a Feb./March/April delivery time again. For me, a late winter or spring baby was a ton easier than a late fall baby.) The first year with kids 18 months apart was pretty hellish and we still have bad days but overall I would rather have kids closer together than further apart if I can help it. Plus my pregnancies are high risk even without AMA as a factor so my doctors are all for it being sooner than later.

[DualvansMommy]

With DS it took us a year when I was 33 and gave birth at 34. It wasn't until then that I found out I don't ovulate regularly hence the long attempts to conceive DS. So I knew if we wanted a second, I'll need bit of help and already had my RE when we made the decision of going for a second.

By then I was 36 and got pregnant after 6 months of tx and awaiting to give birth any day at 37 years old.

[llama8]

I was 27 and got pregnant in 3 months with the baby that we lost at 20 weeks pregnant.

I really wanted to get pregnant right away after that, but it took us exactly 1 year of trying to get pregnant with DD1 at age 29. I had no health issues, but I realize that I was timing it wrong and after read a book on conceiving and charting my temps, it happened very quickly.

DD#2 at age 31 was an oops baby (but a happy surprise). We were going to try for number two anyway, but not so soon because DD#1 was a c-section. We wanted to wait until DD1 was 1 year old, but she happened within 1 month of not being careful.

[MamaSnoo]

6 months for DD- I was 31.
2 or 3 months for DS- I was 34.

[basil]

First month off BCP for DS - I was 31. No charting, temping, or OPKs, in fact I couldn't even remember when my LMP was. We were totally shocked.

Second month trying for my current pregnancy. I am 34. The first month I figured we'd just wing it, but my DH went out of town at the right time, I think. Then I used OPKs the second month to time it right.

[BabbyO]

My first was an oopsie at age 17.
My second was a one and done with NO thought put into it. Ironically after we were unprotected that one time we decided we should use protection again - at least until I had a job since I was laid off at the time. Too late. I was 32
My 3rd we actually had to try and it took about 3 mo - though I'm pretty certain I had a Chemical pregnancy about 1/2 way through that 3 mo period. I was 34.

[kmkaull]

Started trying at 32. After 6 months of charting and timing, I asked my OB for a referral to a RE. My husband's testing immediately showed low count and quality due to a varicocle (basically a varicose vein.)

We thought we had found the problem, but put me through some tests to clear me and found my uterine anomaly (half uterus). Big problem!

Long story short, we were told to do IVF. We instead adopted our son. Fast forward 3 years and we suddenly have insurance coverage for 4 cycles of IVF. So we started thinking about that as an option.

Finally decided to do a cycle. Failed miserably with rotten embryos. Same result with IVF #2. At this point, we figured out that we had a serious sperm quality issue, so DH had his varicocle repaired. Six months later, his numbers looked better. So, off we went with IVF #3.

Three times was a charm, and I finally was pregnant. Our baby girl is now 6 months old. I'm 38 (and tired after reflecting on all we've gone through!) but so happy with how our family was created. Phew!

[klwa]

I was 28 when I got pregnant with DS. (29 at his birth.) I had a chemical pregnancy during the time we were trying, so it either took us 3 months or 6 months that time, depending on how you want to count it.

I was 31 with DD1 (32 at birth) & she was a 1 and done. :)

I was 35 with DD2 (36 at birth) & it took 4 months.

[mom3boys]

First time I was 29 and we were only "trying" in that we weren't using BC. That was a m/c
2nd time I was 30 and we had been trying for about 5 months--I had used OPK a couple times and other times just guessed when I was ovulating based on when I ovulated in previous months.
3rd time I was 32, we decided to try for #2 when DS1 was one. I remember to this day that the "first day of LMP" was 1 day after DS1's first birthday--because it only took 1 try and I had to give that date to my OB. DS1 and DS2 are 20.5 mos. apart (DS2 was nearly 3 weeks early). I did not chart or use a kit just guessed my ovulation and tried to DTD 1 day before--actually I told DH, "we should probably DTD tonight if you want to try for that 2nd baby" and he was like "I'm too tired can we do it tomorrow?" And I was like "sure but that means we'll probably have another boy". And so we did.
3rd time I was 35. Pregnancy was an oops, but we were being stupid-our BC method was basically withdrawal during the "high risk" times. I wrongly assumed 2 days after my period ended was not a high risk time!


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[HannaAddict]

Instantly. At almost 34, just unprotected once on vacation! (We were long married but not "trying.). I had no idea I was pregnant and thought I had food poisoning or was coming down with something when I started getting nauseous. Had our second child within a time or two of thinking about having a number 2, weren't really trying, just no protection, no idea about cycles, etc,. and had no. 3 as a surprise, as I turned 40. I was pretty surprised! But we were very lucky, something I appreciate more now that I know more people who've had fertility or pregnancy difficulties.

[mom2khj]

DD1 - I was 25 and it took almost a year (if not more).
DD2 - I was 28 and it took around 6 months.
DS - I was 34 (I think) and it took about 3 months, but I was much more "in tune" and following my cycle this time around.