SoCalMommy
06-17-2014, 04:49 PM
I have to vent and feeling very alone on this. My DD is 3 1/2 and has been potty trained for the last couple of months. Honestly, she is doing great! She even has pooped on the potty since day one. My only complaint is that she won't verbally say she has to go potty. At school the teachers tell me she does use her words, but with me, her dad or anyone else she will not say anything! Anyone else have a DC who has done this?
She will come to me and squeeze her legs or make silly noises while doing the potty dance but she won't say it! I started asking her to tell me. She whispered it so softly in my ear that I couldn't make it out and when I ask her to say it louder she doesn't. She is very shy and told me she didn't like saying the word "potty" so I asked her to come up with a new word to say instead. That barely lasted a day.
It hurts knowing that she says it to her teachers at school (probably because she has no option) and won't say it anywhere else. I am a SAHM and with her all the time. The fact that she won't say it even to me is upsetting and surprising. Part of me thinks it's a control issue and part of me thinks she is just super shy about it and in time it will fix itself. I want to be understanding, but it's frustrating. I stopped asking her to say it to me after she wouldn't say it and ran out to the side of the house to pee in her pants instead. it felt more like a power struggle at that point and I want to build her confidence and not make her more uncomfortable. (She also has a fear of flushing but we are working on it.)
Not sure anyone can offer advice, but just had to share. Thanks for listening!
She will come to me and squeeze her legs or make silly noises while doing the potty dance but she won't say it! I started asking her to tell me. She whispered it so softly in my ear that I couldn't make it out and when I ask her to say it louder she doesn't. She is very shy and told me she didn't like saying the word "potty" so I asked her to come up with a new word to say instead. That barely lasted a day.
It hurts knowing that she says it to her teachers at school (probably because she has no option) and won't say it anywhere else. I am a SAHM and with her all the time. The fact that she won't say it even to me is upsetting and surprising. Part of me thinks it's a control issue and part of me thinks she is just super shy about it and in time it will fix itself. I want to be understanding, but it's frustrating. I stopped asking her to say it to me after she wouldn't say it and ran out to the side of the house to pee in her pants instead. it felt more like a power struggle at that point and I want to build her confidence and not make her more uncomfortable. (She also has a fear of flushing but we are working on it.)
Not sure anyone can offer advice, but just had to share. Thanks for listening!