wendibird22
10-24-2015, 11:54 AM
Update in post 6. Thanks all for the P&PT that you previously offered up.
Ok so you all know this ongoing medical saga with my mom. She's scheduled for sinus surgery Tuesday to remove the growth and further biopsy of tissue. I've shared that she's totally high strung and anxious already. So now she's had two pre op appointments that have totally ramped up her anxiety. I know that the doc has to do the CYA "here's all the things that could go wrong" speech but now she's utterly panicked about all that could go wrong. She's already reviewed with me what she wants to have happen if she dies. Seriously. She said to me "Joan Rivers didn't think she was going to die that day but she did!" Oh my chill the heck out. She was going to come over today to visit my DDs but texted to say that she couldn't keep her emotions in check so she isnt coming.
I'm trying my hardest to be empathetic but she's causing me to lose my own mind because I'm seriously tired of the handholding and talking her back to reality when she says "I can't help it. I am who I am." No you can help it you chose not to (she does see a therapist and does take an antidepressant but can't get past having a helpless victim mentality). I totally want to tell her that she has to get her $hit together and not call me until she does but I know that's not helpful. The only silver lining is that my dad agreed to take her to the outpatient surgery. I owe him since he's in no way obligated to do this for her.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Ok so you all know this ongoing medical saga with my mom. She's scheduled for sinus surgery Tuesday to remove the growth and further biopsy of tissue. I've shared that she's totally high strung and anxious already. So now she's had two pre op appointments that have totally ramped up her anxiety. I know that the doc has to do the CYA "here's all the things that could go wrong" speech but now she's utterly panicked about all that could go wrong. She's already reviewed with me what she wants to have happen if she dies. Seriously. She said to me "Joan Rivers didn't think she was going to die that day but she did!" Oh my chill the heck out. She was going to come over today to visit my DDs but texted to say that she couldn't keep her emotions in check so she isnt coming.
I'm trying my hardest to be empathetic but she's causing me to lose my own mind because I'm seriously tired of the handholding and talking her back to reality when she says "I can't help it. I am who I am." No you can help it you chose not to (she does see a therapist and does take an antidepressant but can't get past having a helpless victim mentality). I totally want to tell her that she has to get her $hit together and not call me until she does but I know that's not helpful. The only silver lining is that my dad agreed to take her to the outpatient surgery. I owe him since he's in no way obligated to do this for her.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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