lalasmama
03-23-2017, 11:57 PM
I've started this thread about a million times, then stopped, as I'm not sure if I'm over-reacting or not, or if maybe I'm a big baby. But, DH's opinion is "HULK SMASH!" whenever something upsets me, so I can't count on his advice ;)
Quick background: New department started 9 months ago. I have the seniority, having been with the company for 18 months or so before that, and doing the work before the department was made. New office was made available, so they hired Coworker #2 (me being #1). Then, 6 months ago, we hired #3. Last week, we brought on #4. We share a fair sized office (about 14x14ft maybe?). Job is essentially medically-based data entry right now (this will change).
Now, the quandary... Life was golden when it was me and #2. Then, #3 was brought on. I adore #3. #2 likes #3. #3 likes #2, but is much more "buddy-buddy" with me (similar aged kids, similar backgrounds related to our family's military service, both fairly open-minded, and we just get along well; however, we DO NOT do anything together without #2 unless #2 is gone for some reason [like vacation] and then we don't talk about it). So, when it was just me and #2, #2 talked to herself some, but not a lot. She questioned a lot (like trying to invent the wheel before she knew how to useful the wheel was), and was a mite annoying, but not "OMG" levels. So, #3 comes on, and #2 gets bad. Continues to question me, the workflows, etc., on top of arguing with me about how things should be done with #3 (who I was in charge of training). #2 and #3 tend to butt heads a bit--both are opinionated, and think their way is best. #3 politely discusses these things with me; #2 just says I'm wrong and does 170º from what I'm doing because she doesn't want to do the complete opposite.
#2 recently went on vacation. #3 and I had a discussion about how the mood needs to change in the office, because it's bringing us all down, and I didn't want to bring #4 into such a negative environment. So, we decided to try a few things: (1) When she talks to herself, we clarify if she's looking for an answer, or just talking to herself, (2) offer help each and every time she expresses frustration, and (3) "kill her with kindness" (frequently bringing in chocolates she likes, letting her choose activities for us to do together on our breaks, talking sweetly, etc). When #2 came back from vacation, our plan went into effect. #2 seemed better for about 3-4 days, and then things got worse than ever. I actually did a tally today. In 10 minutes before she was leaving (early, to go get some beauty treatment), she made 5 negative comments, and 1 positive one. Negativity could be any myriad of reasons: bad data entry program, to incomplete medical histories, to the fact that I'm choosing a terrible care home for my aunt and uncle, to a changed provider schedule that makes no difference to her, to the nail place was a shade off on her manicure last month. For what it's worth, this is a only a partial list of her issues *just* this afternoon.
#4 started last week, and came to me about 3 days into her week to clarify some things. Turns out while I have been going to the doctor for some elbow issues, #2 was telling #4 how to do her job, in stark contrast to how I was training #4. (#3 has been out sick.) I assured #4 that #4 was doing well, her work was my responsibility, and I was pleased with what she's doing, and she's doing well, and needs to, essentially, let #2's information go in one ear and out the other. She said she appreciated the information, and would continue to come to me with any questions and concerns.
#3 is out with stress-induced cluster headaches. #4 and I are picking up the slack from #3 not being at work. They cover my butt when I can't do something, so I'm good covering her, and thankful that #4 is pitching in. #2 hasn't helped a lick, other than to comment how far ahead #2 is.
Our supervisor comes back from a leave of absence next week. Do we bring this up to her? Or am I being a big weenie?
Quick background: New department started 9 months ago. I have the seniority, having been with the company for 18 months or so before that, and doing the work before the department was made. New office was made available, so they hired Coworker #2 (me being #1). Then, 6 months ago, we hired #3. Last week, we brought on #4. We share a fair sized office (about 14x14ft maybe?). Job is essentially medically-based data entry right now (this will change).
Now, the quandary... Life was golden when it was me and #2. Then, #3 was brought on. I adore #3. #2 likes #3. #3 likes #2, but is much more "buddy-buddy" with me (similar aged kids, similar backgrounds related to our family's military service, both fairly open-minded, and we just get along well; however, we DO NOT do anything together without #2 unless #2 is gone for some reason [like vacation] and then we don't talk about it). So, when it was just me and #2, #2 talked to herself some, but not a lot. She questioned a lot (like trying to invent the wheel before she knew how to useful the wheel was), and was a mite annoying, but not "OMG" levels. So, #3 comes on, and #2 gets bad. Continues to question me, the workflows, etc., on top of arguing with me about how things should be done with #3 (who I was in charge of training). #2 and #3 tend to butt heads a bit--both are opinionated, and think their way is best. #3 politely discusses these things with me; #2 just says I'm wrong and does 170º from what I'm doing because she doesn't want to do the complete opposite.
#2 recently went on vacation. #3 and I had a discussion about how the mood needs to change in the office, because it's bringing us all down, and I didn't want to bring #4 into such a negative environment. So, we decided to try a few things: (1) When she talks to herself, we clarify if she's looking for an answer, or just talking to herself, (2) offer help each and every time she expresses frustration, and (3) "kill her with kindness" (frequently bringing in chocolates she likes, letting her choose activities for us to do together on our breaks, talking sweetly, etc). When #2 came back from vacation, our plan went into effect. #2 seemed better for about 3-4 days, and then things got worse than ever. I actually did a tally today. In 10 minutes before she was leaving (early, to go get some beauty treatment), she made 5 negative comments, and 1 positive one. Negativity could be any myriad of reasons: bad data entry program, to incomplete medical histories, to the fact that I'm choosing a terrible care home for my aunt and uncle, to a changed provider schedule that makes no difference to her, to the nail place was a shade off on her manicure last month. For what it's worth, this is a only a partial list of her issues *just* this afternoon.
#4 started last week, and came to me about 3 days into her week to clarify some things. Turns out while I have been going to the doctor for some elbow issues, #2 was telling #4 how to do her job, in stark contrast to how I was training #4. (#3 has been out sick.) I assured #4 that #4 was doing well, her work was my responsibility, and I was pleased with what she's doing, and she's doing well, and needs to, essentially, let #2's information go in one ear and out the other. She said she appreciated the information, and would continue to come to me with any questions and concerns.
#3 is out with stress-induced cluster headaches. #4 and I are picking up the slack from #3 not being at work. They cover my butt when I can't do something, so I'm good covering her, and thankful that #4 is pitching in. #2 hasn't helped a lick, other than to comment how far ahead #2 is.
Our supervisor comes back from a leave of absence next week. Do we bring this up to her? Or am I being a big weenie?