megs4413
08-24-2017, 12:50 PM
this is kind of convoluted, so stay with me...
SIL and her DH lived in STL. SIL was offered a job in our city (DFW) that is a HUGE step up in her career and just an incredible opportunity. She knew it was a possibility, but didn't know when the offer would come, but it came last month. Her DH has been on the waiting list for a program of study for 3 years. He didn't know when that call would come, but it came last month as well. SIL decided she would move in with us until his program was completed and he could join her down here. His program is 18 months. Then, about a week after they decided this, she found out she was pregnant. At the end of the day, the decision was made that she would still move in with us and take this job and BIL would stay in STL and go through his program. We're all on board with this.
Here's my question...I've never worked outside of the home while pregnant, so I don't really know if this is practical or not. SIL wants to take 12 weeks maternal leave when baby is born. Her plan is to have baby, stay in town for like a week, and then fly to STL and spend the remaining 11ish weeks there with her DH. He will continue to be in his program the whole time, though he hopes to be able to be present for the birth.
In theory, this sounds ok-ish. But, then i was wondering about:
-pediatric appointments. there's like a 2 week and an 8 week and a 3 month, right? how will that work? can you have two pediatricians in different places? what about insurance?
-flying with a newborn during pp period. is that a thing? i mean, it has to be, but somehow I feel like it would be better if we drove....a newborn on a plane during cold/flu season is making me anxious. WWYD?
-how will SIL's post-partum check work? can she see a different OB in STL? how necessary is the PP checkup? can she put it off to 12 weeks? what if she gets mastitis or something?
I can't bring any of this up to her. I don't want to stress her out...she's already pretty much maxed out on stress, but I'd like to prepare for what the reality of our situation will be...not what her hopes of the situation will be. She doesn't even have insurance yet, so we won't know anything about how her insurance will work until next week at the earliest. She was able to get in a doc appt before she left STL, so she's had an ultrasound and some early blood work, so that's all OK. If she's going to need to do more back/forth, we will need to travel with her (which is fine...we have room to stay in STL and my kids are homeschooled/myDH works from home) but I'd like to get an idea of that now, so that we can plan. Does anyone have any input on how all of this might work? TIA!
SIL and her DH lived in STL. SIL was offered a job in our city (DFW) that is a HUGE step up in her career and just an incredible opportunity. She knew it was a possibility, but didn't know when the offer would come, but it came last month. Her DH has been on the waiting list for a program of study for 3 years. He didn't know when that call would come, but it came last month as well. SIL decided she would move in with us until his program was completed and he could join her down here. His program is 18 months. Then, about a week after they decided this, she found out she was pregnant. At the end of the day, the decision was made that she would still move in with us and take this job and BIL would stay in STL and go through his program. We're all on board with this.
Here's my question...I've never worked outside of the home while pregnant, so I don't really know if this is practical or not. SIL wants to take 12 weeks maternal leave when baby is born. Her plan is to have baby, stay in town for like a week, and then fly to STL and spend the remaining 11ish weeks there with her DH. He will continue to be in his program the whole time, though he hopes to be able to be present for the birth.
In theory, this sounds ok-ish. But, then i was wondering about:
-pediatric appointments. there's like a 2 week and an 8 week and a 3 month, right? how will that work? can you have two pediatricians in different places? what about insurance?
-flying with a newborn during pp period. is that a thing? i mean, it has to be, but somehow I feel like it would be better if we drove....a newborn on a plane during cold/flu season is making me anxious. WWYD?
-how will SIL's post-partum check work? can she see a different OB in STL? how necessary is the PP checkup? can she put it off to 12 weeks? what if she gets mastitis or something?
I can't bring any of this up to her. I don't want to stress her out...she's already pretty much maxed out on stress, but I'd like to prepare for what the reality of our situation will be...not what her hopes of the situation will be. She doesn't even have insurance yet, so we won't know anything about how her insurance will work until next week at the earliest. She was able to get in a doc appt before she left STL, so she's had an ultrasound and some early blood work, so that's all OK. If she's going to need to do more back/forth, we will need to travel with her (which is fine...we have room to stay in STL and my kids are homeschooled/myDH works from home) but I'd like to get an idea of that now, so that we can plan. Does anyone have any input on how all of this might work? TIA!