PunkyBoo
08-29-2017, 05:34 PM
UPDATE In pay #6
Sorry this is long...
I got a text from the mother of a boy I'll call D last night, inviting my DS2 to play on Friday. D was in DS2's class last year but they're in different classes this year.
Last spring DS2 asked me to text D's mom to ask for a play date so I did- there is a park right next door to the school so I had them play at the park while I kept an eye on them. D's mom was at work and had told me that when it was time to go home, D would walk home. They live right by the school and park, and it sounded like he had an older brother at home waiting for him. D is a nice boy, they played together fine.
So D's mom said she's off work this Friday and D would like DS2 to come over and play at their house. I've never met D's parents. I've only texted with the mom to schedule the play dates, so I only know her first name. I don't even know their last name (but DS2 could probably tell me). I don't know their house. In full disclosure, DS2 has never been invited to anyone's house for a play date before. Ever. And he's 8.5 years old. The only play dates he's ever had were the 2-3 times I invited classmates to play at the park. We are just beginning the process to have him assessed and his social skills are lacking. He is loud and bossy, and melts down if things don't go the way he thinks they should.
So I'm worried about his behavior when I'm not there. I told D's mom that I'm off this Friday too, that if they get rowdy maybe they could all go to the park, and I'll have to go pick up DS1 from his school but then I can meet them there. But I'm worried about him having a meltdown. I'm also worried because I don't know these people. I don't know if I'm being a crazy helicopter mom. I don't know if I need advice or just calming down. DS2 assures me he'll be fine but this is pretty much uncharted social territory. He's not very capable of speaking out when things are wrong, if he even knows. D's mom seems nice, asked abt food allergies so she can give them a snack, and asked if DS2 is ok around dogs (he is). But I can only prepare him so much when I don't know the family or the house... Help!
Sorry this is long...
I got a text from the mother of a boy I'll call D last night, inviting my DS2 to play on Friday. D was in DS2's class last year but they're in different classes this year.
Last spring DS2 asked me to text D's mom to ask for a play date so I did- there is a park right next door to the school so I had them play at the park while I kept an eye on them. D's mom was at work and had told me that when it was time to go home, D would walk home. They live right by the school and park, and it sounded like he had an older brother at home waiting for him. D is a nice boy, they played together fine.
So D's mom said she's off work this Friday and D would like DS2 to come over and play at their house. I've never met D's parents. I've only texted with the mom to schedule the play dates, so I only know her first name. I don't even know their last name (but DS2 could probably tell me). I don't know their house. In full disclosure, DS2 has never been invited to anyone's house for a play date before. Ever. And he's 8.5 years old. The only play dates he's ever had were the 2-3 times I invited classmates to play at the park. We are just beginning the process to have him assessed and his social skills are lacking. He is loud and bossy, and melts down if things don't go the way he thinks they should.
So I'm worried about his behavior when I'm not there. I told D's mom that I'm off this Friday too, that if they get rowdy maybe they could all go to the park, and I'll have to go pick up DS1 from his school but then I can meet them there. But I'm worried about him having a meltdown. I'm also worried because I don't know these people. I don't know if I'm being a crazy helicopter mom. I don't know if I need advice or just calming down. DS2 assures me he'll be fine but this is pretty much uncharted social territory. He's not very capable of speaking out when things are wrong, if he even knows. D's mom seems nice, asked abt food allergies so she can give them a snack, and asked if DS2 is ok around dogs (he is). But I can only prepare him so much when I don't know the family or the house... Help!