School night bed times and wake up times

[hillview]

DS1 (12 years old): Bed time 930 pm (asleep by 10) up at 645 am, leaves for school at 730 am

DS2 (10 years old): Bed time 830 pm (harder to get to fall asleep, asleep by 9/930) up at whenever he wakes usually 7 am; leaves for school at 8 am

Love to hear what everyone else is doing!

[lizzywednesday]

DD (7 yrs old): bed time 8pm; wakeup 7am; out the door for the bus 8:15am

The 8pm bedtime is harder on DH than it is on DD, as he has this idea that she goes to bed at 8:30p but if she goes to bed any later than 8pm, I have a lot of trouble getting her moving in the morning (7am) and the 7am wakeup is non-negotiable because of her ADHD meds and the timing to get her to the bus stop.

[jren]

DS 8: 8:30 bedtime but he is never asleep before 9. Wakes up at 6:20. Leaves for school a little after 7.

DD (13) will not go to bed. Anxiety. Stays up past 11 and some nights past midnight. Gets up around 7 for bus around 8.


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[ang79]

DD1 (almost 11) - bedtime around 9pm, wakes up at 7pm, leaves house at 8:10 for bus. She often wakes up during the night though, or has trouble falling asleep right away.
DD2 (8.5) - we aim for 8pm bedtime and even still she doesn't want to wake up at 7. Leave at 7:50 to walk to bus stop.

[♥ms.pacman♥]

my kids are 6.5 and 7.5. both go to bed around 9:30pm. wake up at 6:45am, leave at 7:15 for school.

it works for us. i've tried getting them to sleep earlier, around 8:30, and it never works. it's too light outside, and they get restless and they go to bed later than they did.

i know experts are always harping on how kids need more sleep (i saw a table shared on FB that suggested kids my dc age go to bed at 7:30-hah), but i think it depends on the kid. my dd especially can get by with very little sleep. for me, getting kids in bed at 7:30 or even 8pm is just so unrealistic with 2 working parents. we get home with kids at 6pm (unless we have activities, then it is more like 7:15pm). We cook most nights now and dinner isn't ousually on the table until 7pm. i can't imagine only getting 1 -1.5 hours per evening time to spend with my kids, or having to make a mad rush through dinner/baths etc every evening.

anyway, it works for us. my kids dont' have issues waking up in the morning thankfully so it works. i feel like everything is a huge balancing act. i'm sure if i changed various things to try to get them in bed earlier it could be done but that means 1) dd couldn't do activities like gymnastics, 2) i' couldn't cook meals every night, etc and i'm not willing to make that sacrifice.

[AnnieW625]

Dd1 (11, 6th): bed time between 9 and 9:30, light definitely out by 10. Up between 6:30 and 6:45.

DD2 (7, 2nd grade): really should be 8 or 8:30, but recently it has been closer to 9 or 9:15 and this isn't working. She needs to be up by 6:45 and is usually not up until closer to 7 and they have to leave the house by 7:30.

Dd2's teacher sent home a note yesterday saying that DD2 looks like she is spacing out at times during class and needs to work on participation in group work. I have a feeling it is sleep related especially if this is going on in the AM when she is still fully on her ADHD medication. It is times like this that I hate being a working parent with a commute because on a good night I am home by 5:15 and we eat at 6, and Kumon is done by 7 and then they have a little time to relax, but on most nights we don't eat until at least 6:30 or 7 which then pushes everything back an hour. I can't wait for it to be dark at night either because DD2 hates going to bed when it is even the littlest bit light at night.


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[jgenie]

DS1 (9) and DS2 (7) - Our goal is to head upstairs at 7:15 read for a while and then let them read in their beds until 8:00. Books get put away at 8:00 - with any luck they will be asleep soon after. My guys wake up between 5:00 - 6:00 automatically but there's a HUGE difference in demeanor if they don't get enough sleep.

[IansMom]

DS1 (8, 3rd grade) goes to bed at 7 and reads until 7:30. He naturally wakes up around 6:15. I drop him off at school around 7:15/7:20.

[georgiegirl]

DD (11) goes to bed around 9 if she doesn't have swim practice and 9:45-10:00 if she does have swim practice. She wakes up at 6:40 for middle school. She'd prefer to sleep later.

DS1 (8) goes to bed between 8:30 and 9:30 depending on the circumstances. He's up around 6am most days. He's an early riser, so he usually wakes up between 5:30 and 6:30 no matter what time he goes to bed.

DS2 (4) goes to bed between 8 and 9 depending on what's going on. Sometimes he's up until 9:30 if I'm solo parenting and can't get DD a ride home from swim practice. He sleeps in until 7 or 8, but he's often woken up early since I have to drive middle school carpool.


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[BDKmom]

DS (7) and DD (5): lights out for both is 8. DD usually goes right to sleep. DS typically stalls (comes out for water, one more question, etc.) until closer to 8:30. Both get up at 6:30.

[PZMommy]

Bedtime is 7:30 for both my 6 and 8 year old, and they are usually asleep no later than 8. They have to get up around 5:30/5:45, and we are out the door by 6:15. I do let them stay up a bit later on non school nights, so that I can sleep in until 7 on my mornings off.

[Dream]

Both DDs, 9 and 6, Bed time is 8(most days its around 8.30 when I get them to bed tho) and wakes up at 7, leave the house at 8.25. They walk a block and a half to school.

[scrooks]

DD (10) in bed by 9:30, usually reads until 10:00. She is a naturally early riser and wakes up on her own between 7-7:30.
DS1(almost 8) We aim to get him to bed by 9:00 but it usually creeps until 9:30 and I have to drag him out of bed between 7:30-7:50ish.
DS1 needs more sleep but we are honestly having trouble shifting from summer mode to school mode.
Both DD and DS1 get on the bus around 8:25.
DS2 (4) typically gets to bed before 9 and wakes up around 7:30 on his own.

[speo]

DS1 (12): In bed by 9:00 and wake up at 7:00. He sometimes has trouble falling asleep. Also depending on homework and soccer practice, his bedtime may be a little later.
DS2 (9): In bed by 8:00 and wake up at 6:40. He passes out every night!

Both boys wake up earlier than necessary so they can practice piano in the morning for 20/40 minutes.

[jennilynn]

DD (4): in bed and lights out at 8-8:15. DS (8) and DS (7) have "quiet hour" from 8-9. It's time to read, shower, etc. Lights out at 9 but sometimes one will read with a book light for a few minutes. All wake up at 7 without any problems.

The earlier bedtime for DD is new because all summer I let her stay up with her brothers until 9, but she's more tolerable with more sleep.


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[StantonHyde]

Kids are 14 and 12. Bedtime is around 9:30-10:00. Wake up is at 7. DS is fine. DD is a bear to get up in the morning--she is a night owl like her father.

[mom2binsd]

DD 14, bed around 10:30, sometimes earlier if she has an early swim time, up at 5am for before school swim practice or else up at 6:30.

DS 11, bed around 9:30-10, up at 7:15.

If I don't have to take DD to swim practice, they get up on their own, I do not go downstairs, they get ready themselves, I make sure DS has taken his adhd meds, but they're independent and prefer that I not get up which is fine by me.

[123LuckyMom]

We aim to be ready for bed by 8 and lights out for 8:30pm. Kids are 5 and 8. The 8 year old is always asleep by 9pm at the latest. The 5 year old is often up very late and multiple times in the night. During summer, bedtime often moves up an hour at least, despite my best efforts, due to longer days and later play. Daylight savings puts us back on track. Wake up is at 7am daily.


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[JBaxter]

8 yr old 3rd grader melatonin ( 1/2 mg) given at 830 he's a sleep by 9 ish unless Big Brother is on then he is up until 10. 7 am is our wake up time. 13 yr old I don't know anymore he is sometimes up u till 10 or 11 doing home work. 7am is wake up time.

[MMMommy]

I'm envious of the early bedtimes I'm seeing here! My DDs are older (13) and (12). With their activities and homework, they don't go to bed until 10pm to 10:30pm. They wake up at 7am. They are not morning people (like their parents....).

[twowhat?]

Bedtime is 7:30pm for our kids (almost 9) but that really just means "in your room winding down". They are already tired by then so they might read or play quietly for half an hour and then they are OUT! They need to wake up at 6:30am for school. I do hate that the evenings are such a scramble, but on the flip side if they don't get 10+ hours of sleep, they are a royal mess and we all suffer. It helps (greatly!) that I work from home so that means I usually can get something in the oven or on the stove in time for a very early dinner. They eat at 5:30pm-ish, and because they are in bed so early DH and I don't eat until late, which is probably terrible, especially with all the guilt trips people like to throw around about the importance of family dinners and quality time.

On weekends we let them stay up until anywhere between 8:30 and 9:30pm depending on how tired they start to act (based on behavior) and if they are up late, they sleep in. They have been known to sleep in until past 9am occasionally!

So...sleep is king in our house :)

[bcafe]

DD (6) is in bed by 7:30 Up by 6:30
DS (9) 8:15 Up by 6:30
DS (12) 9:00 Up @ 6 (he has early morning MS football practice)
DD (14) 10:00 Up @ 6:45

[♥ms.pacman♥]

DH and I don't eat until late, which is probably terrible, especially with all the guilt trips people like to throw around about the importance of family dinners

lol that is another concept that i find laughable as a working mom. ...the "family dinner." on weekdays, it is so, so, rare that all 4 of us sit down and eat AT THE SAME TIME...even though neither DH or I work late. and even if we don't have evening kid activities. it only happens on weekends, and/or if we are in a restaurant. even though we cook fairly often during the week, it just doesn't happen - we have to prep/cut kids food in a way such that they'll eat it, then while we get ours ready, it's all "can i have more ketchup? i want more cheese! i want more fruit!". My DS eats so fast, he often finishes his food before i even get to sit down and have my meal.

dd's homework every week is to do a chore for the week and this week was "set the table." She was like, "what does that mean?" :lol: LOL!!! we are so not the "set the table" family. we are "hey kids, dinner's ready, here's your plate, grab a fork and come eat" while the parents scramble to get their own dinners ready, empty out our lunchboxes, etc. Yeah, i guess it would be nice to sit down and eat as a family but it's not happening. Not enough hours in the day!

[twowhat?]

lol that is another concept that i find laughable as a working mom. ...the "family dinner." on weekdays, it is so, so, rare that all 4 of us sit down and eat AT THE SAME TIME...even though neither DH or I work late. and even if we don't have evening kid activities. it only happens on weekends, and/or if we are in a restaurant. even though we cook fairly often during the week, it just doesn't happen - we have to prep/cut kids food in a way such that they'll eat it, then while we get ours ready, it's all "can i have more ketchup? i want more cheese! i want more fruit!". My DS eats so fast, he often finishes his food before i even get to sit down and have my meal.

dd's homework every week is to do a chore for the week and this week was "set the table." She was like, "what does that mean?" :lol: LOL!!! we are so not the "set the table" family. we are "hey kids, dinner's ready, here's your plate, grab a fork and come eat" while the parents scramble to get their own dinners ready, empty out our lunchboxes, etc. Yeah, i guess it would be nice to sit down and eat as a family but it's not happening. Not enough hours in the day!

Oh yeah we're the same! Family dinners = eating out at a restaurant on the weekends :)

[Kindra178]

Close to your times. DS1 has practice til 9.15 two nights a week and til 9.30 one night a week.


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[LBW]

My 3 (14, 11, 9) are all usually in bed by 9.

My oldest has to be up by 5:45 to take the 6:30 bus to HS.
My youngest has to be up by 6:45 to take a 7:30 bus.
My middle son is the lucky one -- his bus isn't until 8:30. I bet he'll be up by 7, though.

[DualvansMommy]

This year is different as we switched to public district from private for DS1. That means no early am to make the long drive to school.

DS1 (6) & DS2 (3.5) goes up by 7 for baths. While one of us get DS2 to sleep which he does immediately by 7:15 or so. We're trying to get DS1 not to wake up till 7:30 or even 7:45 this year vs previous year at 6:45am

DS1 leaves house at 8:40 for the bus by 8:42 which is right at our corner outside of front door. Then I leave to drive DS2 to his preschool immediately after bus.


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[Snow mom]

DD(8 yrs): technically bedtime is 7:30 but she has trouble falling asleep. I usually have to roll her out of bed around 7:45 because she's pokey in the morning. We need to leave by 8:35 to walk to the bus or 8:55 to drive to school. Start is 9:05.

[niccig]

DS is 12. He opted for zero period, so starts school at 7am, and we have to leave at 6:45-6:50. We've been trying for 9:30pm bedtime. It's been difficult to adjust.

[lalasmama]

DD is 13. Bedtime is 9:00 pm, and alarm is 6:30 am. She takes a while to go to sleep... so she's going to sleep more around 9:30 pm, but I'm not willing to let her stay up that late out in the living room with the adults. She fights going to sleep whether its 9 pm or 10 pm or midnight, and has high sleep needs, so she really needs an "early" bedtime to get to sleep at a reasonable hour.

She's heading out for school with DH at 7:10 am.

[KpbS]

Bedtime is 7:30pm for our kids (almost 9) but that really just means "in your room winding down". They are already tired by then so they might read or play quietly for half an hour and then they are OUT! They need to wake up at 6:30am for school. I do hate that the evenings are such a scramble, but on the flip side if they don't get 10+ hours of sleep, they are a royal mess and we all suffer. It helps (greatly!) that I work from home so that means I usually can get something in the oven or on the stove in time for a very early dinner. They eat at 5:30pm-ish, and because they are in bed so early DH and I don't eat until late, which is probably terrible, especially with all the guilt trips people like to throw around about the importance of family dinners and quality time.

On weekends we let them stay up until anywhere between 8:30 and 9:30pm depending on how tired they start to act (based on behavior) and if they are up late, they sleep in. They have been known to sleep in until past 9am occasionally!

So...sleep is king in our house :)

This is us, except we don't modify much for weekends. My 12 yo does have later nights with athletics or youth groups, but at home lights out are early. My kids are early risers no matter what time they go to bed. Go to bed at 11 pm, awake at 6:30/6:45. Go to bed at 8, awake at 6:30/6:45. The only difference is whether they are monstrous to be around or well rested and relatively pleasant.

[carolinacool]

DS turns 8 in December and is in second grade. He heads up to shower around eight, and we aim for lights out at 8:45. We drag him out of bed around 6:40 and DH takes him to school around 7:20 or 7:25.

[azzeps]

The school bus comes at 6:50 am, so they will be in bed during the school year by 7:30 (6 yo) and 8:00 (9 yo). They get up at 6:00.

[mackmama]

DC in 1st grade, lights out at 7:30pm, wakes by 6:30am automatically no matter what.

[rin]

DDs are in kindergarten & second grade; over the summer we have been letting them go to bed between 8 & 9, then up at 7:45 or so, out the door by 8:30 to get to camp. School starts at 7:50, though, so we are going to have to get them back on an earlier schedule. Last year bedtime was 7:30 pajamas, 8:00 lights out, then up at 6:30, out the door at 7:30.

On the weekends, they usually sleep until 8 or so.

[Philly Mom]

ms.pacman[emoji813];4263684]lol that is another concept that i find laughable as a working mom. ...the "family dinner." on weekdays, it is so, so, rare that all 4 of us sit down and eat AT THE SAME TIME...even though neither DH or I work late. and even if we don't have evening kid activities. it only happens on weekends, and/or if we are in a restaurant. even though we cook fairly often during the week, it just doesn't happen - we have to prep/cut kids food in a way such that they'll eat it, then while we get ours ready, it's all "can i have more ketchup? i want more cheese! i want more fruit!". My DS eats so fast, he often finishes his food before i even get to sit down and have my meal.

dd's homework every week is to do a chore for the week and this week was "set the table." She was like, "what does that mean?" :lol: LOL!!! we are so not the "set the table" family. we are "hey kids, dinner's ready, here's your plate, grab a fork and come eat" while the parents scramble to get their own dinners ready, empty out our lunchboxes, etc. Yeah, i guess it would be nice to sit down and eat as a family but it's not happening. Not enough hours in the day!

Haha. We are similar too! I like eating breakfast out on weekends because it's our best family meal. I try to eat with the kids now though because they go to bed so late. DH eats when I put the kids to bed. Our kids 6 and almost 4 share a room. I try to get them upstairs at 8 (earlier if showering) and the kids are asleep between 8:30-8:45. If for some reason the little one napped during the day, she is up until 10+ in her room. DD1 wakes up between 7-7:30, with the occasional sleep in until 8, DD2 wakes between 7-8:15 depending on when she fell asleep. The bus picks up at 8:35 so we have plenty of time.


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[okinawama]

Both boys ( 8&6) head up to bed around 7:30, lights out around 7:50 and asleep by 8 ( often earlier). They have to be up at 5:45 for us to leave at 6:35ish. DH and I both wake around 4:30, so we go to bed by 9:30 usually. I really need that hour of kid free time in the evenings.

[jerseygirl07067]

I'm envious of the early bedtimes I'm seeing here! My DDs are older (13) and (12). With their activities and homework, they don't go to bed until 10pm to 10:30pm. They wake up at 7am. They are not morning people (like their parents....).

Wow am I envious of all of you! My 12 and 13 y/o DD are not in bed until 11. However middle school doesn't start until 9:25 so they don't get up until 8:30. However, their middle school just started holding morning soccer practices instead of the afternoon, so I am trying to back bedtime up a bit, because they are not getting enough sleep on days when they have to get up at 7am. My 8 y/o is asleep by 10 and gets up at 7:45 for school.

I don't know how you all do these early bedtimes. All 3 of my kids are involved with soccer, and have 2 practices each per week. We usually eat dinner after, rather than before, and by the time showering, eating, and all homework is done, it's 10pm! Funny thing, is most of my IRL friends are in the same boat, except for my friends who have little ones 8 and under. My 8 y/o is tough to get to bed when she knows her older sisters are still up.

[mmsmom]

DS, 10 in 5th grade 8:30 bedtime. I wake him @ 7:30
DD, 8 in 3rd grade, 8:00 bedtime. She wakes on her own around 7:00.

Bus comes at 8:20. We are usually able to maintain these bedtimes even with activities. Our schedule is roughly:
4:30 get off bus
4:30-5:00 snack & homework
6:00 dinner
6:30 bath (every other night)
7:30-8:00 reading time for DD
8:00-8:30 reading time for DS

When we have activities they do reading after homework and sometimes we have dinner earlier or later depending on activity time. They would like to have more downtime but it doesn't happen during the week.

[KrisM]

All of them go up to bed at 9pm. They all read for a bit, but lights out by 9:30 for DS2 and 10 for the others. DS1 and DD are up about 6am and DS2 is up at 7:30am. DS1 and DD get up about 7:30 on Wednesdays because it's late start.

[ABO Mama]

We have the same schedule for all 3 DS, 14, 14, 11. Devices off at 7pm, take a shower, read until 8pm, then I read to them until 8:30, followed by lights out. The older 2 fall asleep right away, younger takes a little longer. School starts at 8am for all, we leave the house at 7:45, everyone up at 6:30.

[Corie]

My kids are DD,15 and DS,12.

They both go to bed at 10:00pm. Sometimes DD will go to bed around 9:30pm if she's tired. (Soccer)

DD gets up at 6:00am and DS gets up at 6:30am.

[baymom]

DS (13) and DD (11) sleep between 9:30-10:00 and wake up at 7:00.

ETA: That's for weeknights only. As they have gotten older, we've become very lax about staying up late on Friday and Saturday nights. They also both love to sleep in these days and if they don't have an early soccer game on the weekends, will sleep in until 9:00-10:00am and sometimes even later.

[carolinamama]

This thread made me feel a bit better about our bedtimes. My kids like sports and I just can't make an earlier bedtime work with some sort of practice every night. DS1 (11) and DS2 (8) are probably in bed by 9:30, asleep by 10:00. DD (6) in bed by 8:30-9:00 on a good night. They all get up between 6:15-6:30.