♥ms.pacman♥
09-13-2017, 11:47 PM
Wondering if anyone has any tips on how to accept compliments/praise in a work setting? I'm totally awkward about this thing in general. Just smiling and say "thank you" is often all I can think of, but seems so trite in certain situations...
I was completely caught off guard today when i was called aside to a special mtg w/ my boss & his boss. Being the somewhat paranoid person that I am, I was worried all morning that it was going to be something bad - that i was going to get reprimanded for not putting in enough hours (once a week or so i leave at 4:30 to pickup my kids, and often i take long lunch breaks to go work out). I am an engineer and one of only two women in my dept, and one of the few with young kids so I don't stay as late as most others in my dept. And to top it off, very early this morning the CEO sent a company-wide email notifying all employees that they were going to start "targeted workforce reduction" to cut costs so *everyone* was on major pins & needles!! Especially me after seeing i had this meeting..seriously i was doing the mental equivalent of pacing the floor all morning.
to my astonishment, they said they were giving me a special stock award for my work on a particular high-visibility project. i was kind of gobsmacked to be quite honest. it was more than 10% of my salary. apparently this kind of award often only goes out to one person in our dept, has to be approved by the VP, CEO, etc. i did spend a ton of time & effort on leading that project, but i don't usually work crazy hours (not even close, TBH sometimes i wish i had more work), and i felt like I didn't discover anything earth-shattering (though i will admit i did facilitate findings that would result in major $$$ for the company).
my initial reaction was a feeling a huge sigh relief and "OMG, really?" I think i smiled i mumbled thank you a few times. I was so caught off guard though, looking back on it i'm sure i could have handled it way better than I did. anyway, ideally i would say something like "wow, thank you so much. this is awesome, it is so nice to be appreciated, it motivates me to work harder, looking forward to other new projects" but i didn't want to say anything that sounded too sappy or fake or seemingly wishy-washy or too arrogant. again, i'm one of few women in a very old-school, conservative industry, and i'm one of the youngest in my department, so not sounding silly or fake but not TOO confident is *constantly* on my mind.
Also, an aside - does anybody sometimes think that as women, we tend set ourselves to impossibly high standards? And that can really screw us over and mess with our minds?? It's so hard to shake sometimes. Sometimes i wish i could bottle up the confidence and sheer arrogance i see so many men have and wish i could have just a tad of that, and my life would be sooooo much easier. lol.
(if you are still reading this - thank u for listening!)
I was completely caught off guard today when i was called aside to a special mtg w/ my boss & his boss. Being the somewhat paranoid person that I am, I was worried all morning that it was going to be something bad - that i was going to get reprimanded for not putting in enough hours (once a week or so i leave at 4:30 to pickup my kids, and often i take long lunch breaks to go work out). I am an engineer and one of only two women in my dept, and one of the few with young kids so I don't stay as late as most others in my dept. And to top it off, very early this morning the CEO sent a company-wide email notifying all employees that they were going to start "targeted workforce reduction" to cut costs so *everyone* was on major pins & needles!! Especially me after seeing i had this meeting..seriously i was doing the mental equivalent of pacing the floor all morning.
to my astonishment, they said they were giving me a special stock award for my work on a particular high-visibility project. i was kind of gobsmacked to be quite honest. it was more than 10% of my salary. apparently this kind of award often only goes out to one person in our dept, has to be approved by the VP, CEO, etc. i did spend a ton of time & effort on leading that project, but i don't usually work crazy hours (not even close, TBH sometimes i wish i had more work), and i felt like I didn't discover anything earth-shattering (though i will admit i did facilitate findings that would result in major $$$ for the company).
my initial reaction was a feeling a huge sigh relief and "OMG, really?" I think i smiled i mumbled thank you a few times. I was so caught off guard though, looking back on it i'm sure i could have handled it way better than I did. anyway, ideally i would say something like "wow, thank you so much. this is awesome, it is so nice to be appreciated, it motivates me to work harder, looking forward to other new projects" but i didn't want to say anything that sounded too sappy or fake or seemingly wishy-washy or too arrogant. again, i'm one of few women in a very old-school, conservative industry, and i'm one of the youngest in my department, so not sounding silly or fake but not TOO confident is *constantly* on my mind.
Also, an aside - does anybody sometimes think that as women, we tend set ourselves to impossibly high standards? And that can really screw us over and mess with our minds?? It's so hard to shake sometimes. Sometimes i wish i could bottle up the confidence and sheer arrogance i see so many men have and wish i could have just a tad of that, and my life would be sooooo much easier. lol.
(if you are still reading this - thank u for listening!)