Melaine
03-11-2021, 08:20 AM
My girls are in 8th grade and doing four high school classes this year. We homeschool, however, we do a university model hybrid schooling set up so they are on campus two days a week and home three. It's a very effective set up for us. Although I was proficient in math as a teen and clepped out in college, it's been way too long for me to really help with their Algebra curriculum too much and their curriculum is more advanced (truly more like Algebra 2 according to the teacher). Also there are several students who are exceptionally gifted in math, and it comes very easily to them, which is always annoying. We don't have separate honors classes, the honors students are in with the rest and sometimes not very sublte about their proficiency.
My girls are extremely motivated and concientious. They have always been at the top of their class and get a lot of praise from teachers. I'm very proud of them, but their hardwork is also part of their sometimes unhealthy competitive nature and perfectionism. This year has been helpful because I need them to grasp that sometimes you can work your very hardest and still not get A+'s across the board. Sometimes you can be proud of a non-A grade because you have earned it and it was difficult!
About a month ago, I hired a tutor and she has been wonderful. They have only had 4 one hour sessions, but I could tell that they were both feeling a lot more confident. The problem with a hybrid setup is that the teacher really has to cover a lot of material and truly can't slow down much if students are behind the curve.
This week they had four big tests, one of them the dreaded Algebra 1 test. They have studied very hard. There were only 12 questions. They were both very nervous, but DD2 seemed more nervous.
Last night we had major, major drama because DD2 saw both of their grades right before bedtime. DD2 made a 50. DD1 made a 97.
You guys, having twins is so hard. DD1 felt horrible, I think even guilty, and I know that she felt robbed of her proud moment. DD2 is angry, disappointed and is convinced that she is just simply not as smart as the rest of the class (granted we don't know how they did). She is already eaten up with stress about the math final at the end of the year. I am positive that we can work through this and build her confidence back up. Obviously we will continue working with the tutor and I'll talk to the teacher.
Maybe there is no advice to give. I have told DD2 all the things I can think of: I'm so proud of her. She is very smart and being a hardworker will get her there and be more valuable in the long run than brainiacs who are just coasting. It's ok to not know everything all the time. We don't expect you to be perfect!
My girls are extremely motivated and concientious. They have always been at the top of their class and get a lot of praise from teachers. I'm very proud of them, but their hardwork is also part of their sometimes unhealthy competitive nature and perfectionism. This year has been helpful because I need them to grasp that sometimes you can work your very hardest and still not get A+'s across the board. Sometimes you can be proud of a non-A grade because you have earned it and it was difficult!
About a month ago, I hired a tutor and she has been wonderful. They have only had 4 one hour sessions, but I could tell that they were both feeling a lot more confident. The problem with a hybrid setup is that the teacher really has to cover a lot of material and truly can't slow down much if students are behind the curve.
This week they had four big tests, one of them the dreaded Algebra 1 test. They have studied very hard. There were only 12 questions. They were both very nervous, but DD2 seemed more nervous.
Last night we had major, major drama because DD2 saw both of their grades right before bedtime. DD2 made a 50. DD1 made a 97.
You guys, having twins is so hard. DD1 felt horrible, I think even guilty, and I know that she felt robbed of her proud moment. DD2 is angry, disappointed and is convinced that she is just simply not as smart as the rest of the class (granted we don't know how they did). She is already eaten up with stress about the math final at the end of the year. I am positive that we can work through this and build her confidence back up. Obviously we will continue working with the tutor and I'll talk to the teacher.
Maybe there is no advice to give. I have told DD2 all the things I can think of: I'm so proud of her. She is very smart and being a hardworker will get her there and be more valuable in the long run than brainiacs who are just coasting. It's ok to not know everything all the time. We don't expect you to be perfect!