I feel like a single parent
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Originally Posted by
petesgirl
I wouldn't be surprised if DH does have ADHD as well. I think his dad has been officially diagnosed with it and he has never enjoyed reading because he said he will read the same line over and over and not gain any information from it. But, it hasn't really impacted his life much. He did fine in school and college and has held good jobs successfully and does ok socially (although he isn't a super social person).
I guess I would expect that him having attention deficit problems would create a greater desire for him to see that DS got help. It seems like in reality he doesn't care and even when I was initially trying to decide whether or not to get DS evaluated for ADHD, DH would often just say things like "I'm sure there is nothing to worry about. He will be fine."
The other frustrating thing for me is DH's siblings. He has 2 brothers who are absolutely paralyzed (in my opinion) by mental health disorders that I feel like his parents have chosen to ignore. One brother has major anxiety attacks and OCD that has caused 2 fiancees to break off their engagement with him. He is currently 26, jobless, living with my in laws and going through an intensive 12-week rehab program for OCD-that my church is paying for because his parents wont. His 28 yr old brother has OCD and major, major hoarding issues, has dropped out of several different colleges, and can't keep a steady job. DH is constantly expressing frustration with them--why can't he see that getting help for our son right now is the key to preventing the kind of life his brothers (who never got help as kids) are living???
I just hate feeling like I'm the only one who is concerned about the kids.
I’m sorry. Maybe he is concerned but scared to admit it.
My DH never knew what was going on with DS. I set up google calendars and shared them with DH. With DS’s calendar I set it so DH gets notified by email when a new event is put into the calendar. DH hates when I put in soccer practice/ game times as there’s 30 emails at once, you don’t have to have this setting. DH can also see my calendar. I still need to remind him about somethings, but it’s all on the calendar so he can check it from his phone whenever he wants.
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