Originally Posted by
hellokitty
My son, my annoying son, and my annoying husband who trusted my son. He takes college classes so we don't have access to his grades, my husband, who should know better by now than to trust our son accepted the LIE that he got all A's and B's last semester only for us to discover he got C's and D's. I'm so angry and disappointed, I'm tired of the chronic disappointment, he has ADHD, we tried the meds but it the side effects were an issue. Add on that he actually got into every college he applied to and got scholarships... But now we are afraid those will all be rescinded if he can't manage to have a good final semester. This all feeds into my fears that he will go to college and flunk out because he is his own worst enemy. I'm so mad I'm numb. He is my smartest kid, but has zero self motivation and only cares about video games, his grades have never reflected his intelligence, it's like he is wasting a perfectly good brain. Meanwhile, my sophomore who is the polar opposite has already started his college search and is looking at higher tiered schools, while we had to drag our older son through this entire process and only focused on schools within our state. Even though I have 3 boys, I don't get any benefit from learning from the experience with my first kid because everything is such a train wreck in spite of us doing everything we should be doing.
Idk what else to say, yes these are first world problems, and my husband's view is let him sink now... Except we have tried this before and he never swims, he just keeps sinking. Idk what to do with this kid but he cannot just live with us forever and play videogames, everything has got to be the hard way. I have a coworker with a 30 something son who literally is living with them forever because all he can do is play video games and they can't trust him with money because he uses it on stupid crap... It's like my worst fear come true. She is in her 70s and can't retire because she is supporting him!