Would you talk to the teacher?
Help me figure out how to help DD. I've come to realize that she is a perfectionist in many ways. The current school issue that I'm trying to figure out is with her freshman English class. Her teacher has assigned the class to read for 2 hours every week. No big deal. Except, when you're my DD and decide that many things don't "count" towards your 2-hour total: if you re-read a paragraph you didn't understand, if you find your mind wandering and daydreaming for a few minutes. The other evening, we were sitting together in the living room working together for at least an hour. She had her book in front of her the whole time. No TV, no computer, not using the phone except as a timer. However, when we were finishing up, DD told me she only had 22 minutes on her stopwatch, since she'd paused the timer for the above reasons.
DH and I have had many conversations with her but she she still seems to be under-counting her reading time. I've suggested she talk to her teacher about it. She hasn't yet- she is waiting for her upcoming "conference", although she is not sure when that will be. I'm worried though that he won't understand the situation, since it's far more common for students to be pushed to do something than to undersell themselves. Should I reach out ahead of time? Or see how the conference goes, then intervene only if the teacher doesn't seem to understand what is going on?
BTW, I also realize that this is part of a larger issue of anxiety and possible OCD. I've talked to her pediatrician and am working on getting her into counseling. But in the meantime I'm wondering how to handle the school issue.