Originally Posted by
StantonHyde
Our children have fewer external responsibilities than we did but many more internal responsibilities. There is so much more to process. Grit looks different now. Maturity helps. But you do need to look at: perfectionism, anxiety, etc. I think if you have a kid who is going through major surgeries--that is grit. It's not like she gets a total pass on everything else. But that is taking all of her band width to get through.
And you have to let.it.go. regarding your childhood/you and your kid. This is not your childhood. Your kid is not you. I say this as someone who has spent a loooong time in therapy recovering from my family crap. I worked very hard to make sure my kids had a different childhood. They don't have the grit I did. DS would not have survived my childhood. Thank God *I* am his mother. He will fulfill his potential. I didn't--It took everything I had to get out and do well. But how much more could there have been???? On the flip side, I have grit for miles. Maybe its a good thing my kids don't.....