How do you all handle those situations when you kid is doing their thing, and
you know it's not OK, but the people around you think it's fine?
In general I don't care what anyone (i.e. random strangers) think about me & my parenting, but DS1 has been acting up a lot at drs. appointments lately. Not his appt, but his brother's. (DS2 had an ear infection, turns out he's allergic to penicillins, so whoops we had several unscheduled trips to the pedi this week).
For example, today the nurse came in and told me to take DS2's clothes off. DS1 said "I'm going to take my clothes off too" and started to undress. I told him to stop, and had to be rather emphatic because he wasn't listening to me. We've been working with the parent trainer a lot from his school on control issues, impulse control, he has to follow my directions etc...the bottom line being that no, it wasn't OK for him to take his clothes off too b/c he was trying to make the appt all about him - he was so jealous of his brother. Etc etc.
On this particular occasion no one said anything to me but there have been other times when the med proffesional contradicts me or says "that's OK" when it really isn't. I usually override them...I don't want to get into DS1's full history with them, but sometimes I think it'd be nice to be able to say Back Off! in a succinct, yet respectful, way.
Any thoughts?