Originally Posted by
icunurse
Just say the same thing that you would to any new parent. Congrats on your baby, he/she is beautiful, etc. Other than how they arrived, it is all the same once they are there. Adoptive parents are scared, frustrated, elated, tired and all the other emotions that go along with being a new parent. Our children are just as chosen and special as any other, but, for some reason, a fair amount of people like to make it seem like they were hard-luck cases turned good with their comments - it was so wonderful that I "did" adoption; they are so lucky that I picked them (if anything, *I* am lucky that their birthparents chose *me*); thank goodness that they have me (um, actually, their birthparents are quite nice, smart, and caring....just not ready to be a parent right now). You just can't assume that adoption is broken into sinners and saints, if that makes sense. There are lots of ways that a baby comes into a family and this is just one that has a little more background to it :)
Just the fact that you are asking makes me guess that you have never offended anyone about adoption. Not everyone can know the way it really works and the terminology that goes with it, but a kind heart tries to take the time to learn. :)