academics for 5yo with ASD
DS turned 5 end of last year. He had early recognition of letter, numbers, shapes and colors, not inconsistent with his autism diagnosis. However, his progress from there has been really slow. He doesn't seem to get some concepts that I see kids his age already knowing. At a recent test, the psychologist was unable to determine his IQ (indirect testing I think) level because of various interfering things - distractability, sensory issues etc. He also has a lot of rigidities and is somewhat closed to learning. However, he is able to sit and attend at home because he is calm, he initiates the activity. But he just doesn't understand some things like 1-1 correspondence (color the letter "a" with red) even after going over it with him. He also seems to lack some basic skills like using his pointing finger like reading, and this realization is just coming to me. I am afraid that he might be low on IQ although I don't know if someone with relatively higher IQ at a younger age can have lower IQ as they grow up. And adding in some of his other autism related issues (focus/attention, sensory issues, rigidity) I feel that he will very quickly fall behind. Would you say I should hire a tutor (which I can afford now) to work once a week for a half hour or so to work on just academic skills? I understand that it is probably not age appropriate for a normally developing child, but I feel that we will very quickly slip if we don't start addressing it now. Given his issues I feel that staying ahead is a better strategy for him so he can focus on learning in other areas when he starts kinder this fall. any btdt? any thoughts?
he currently goes to a preschool for 3 days a week (can't do 5 days because the program does not allow it) with an aide with a lot of focus on attending, sitting at a task, doing non=preffered but teacher led activities, staying in a group, listening to group instructions, socialization etc. So, this is already a lot. In addition the same team (it's an ABA company) work on play skills and the above skills at home as well. He does other things like speech, social group, OT. I know this is already a lot and I will be adding more by adding a tutor, but again, nobody is addressing his academic needs, and dad and I try to do it. But it's hard for us to be consistent about it and also don't now what may be age-appropriate and to what extent to push him. add to that the anxiety that we have while teaching is just not a good match.
again, would love to hear some perspectives. thanks!
ETA: I wanted to add that I find this troubling not just about him being to keep up, but also because it will add another dimension of behavior in the classroom - when he doesn't know something he is asked to do, instead of asking for help or even realizing that he can't do it, he will act up. On the other hand, I have seen instances where he knows what to do and is right away doing it and is enjoying the activity.