My Parents Make Me Want to ...
... scream, delete my Facebook account, and commit patricide. That is, if I don't decide to defect to some place without internet or parents.
My father is in the process of divorcing his wife. He's currently living with my brother and sister-in-law. My brother is happy that he has the room, but he also said at my nephew's birthday party last weekend that "it's been a week and that's too long." (I agree; even if I'd had the room, I wouldn't have had the room.)
My mother's worldview has been warped by that of her husband, her only source of information and judgment, which led to her posting an incredibly racially offensive meme and follow-up article on her FB timeline that led to my sister-in-law blocking Mom (and telling her that she would not be seeing her grandsons, who are half-Cuban ...) "without warning."
(In my opinion, that kind of thing doesn't require warning. You should already know it's wrong.)
Which leaves me ... receiving texts about all of it.
Mostly, I don't answer. Yesterday, as I predicted when the block and anger happened (I was ready to block, too), Mom expressed being "heartbroken" about the lack of invitation to the nephew-party in a text to me.
I'm not proud of it, but for my own mental health, I deflected it as something that's between my SIL and Mom. I feel like a coward for it because I got angry all over again because I can't find the words to explain, in a rational and factual manner, why what she posted is not only offensive but also twisted, evil, and racist.
At least with Dad, I'm only getting basic facts, like when did he marry the soon-to-be-ex-wife (March 2013), and that he's still got the same phone number, but with Mom ... I get emotions.
They both need friends. And a lot of therapy. And neither of them have the financial means to get the latter.
I'm emotionally exhausted.
My Parents Make Me Want to ...
You dodged it this time, so be prepared if your mom says something again. “Mom, you’re Facebook post was racist, of course it offended SIL who is Cuban”. Then don’t reply to anything else she says trying to justify what she did.
My mother is difficult but I’ve been calling her out on her behavior rather than ignore and let it go to set example for DS that you don’t let people treat you badly. I get the silent treatment, which is kinda nice actually!
Your brother also needs to stand up for his family. MIL said something derogatory towards immigrants. I called her on it. I then told DH to deal with his mother or his immigrant wife and half-American child would never visit her again. DH dealt with it.
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