OMG. This is our situation too. The siblings have moved far away and we'd be the only ones nearby to deal with the issues. :crying: Luckily, DH's job would put us about an hour away from all of them. But that's still close enough. They expect a LOT from us and it's exhausting. We would have to go in expecting them to resist our new boundaries but I cannot imagine going back to the old way.
Wow. A lot to consider.