Help! I just can't go through another year of sleeplessneess like we did with Jack. Joshua was sleeping in his bassinet and waking up 2x to eat (which was fine). DH would do one feeding with ebm and I would do one nursing session, and all was okay. But then, Joshua started balking at the bottle again and not falling back to sleep after DH fed him. So DH (understandably, since he has to get some sleep to get up and go to work) started handing him back to me afer his feed.
I was so tired, that I started taking Joshua in bed with me and nursing him down. Sometimes, I'd "forget" to put him back in his bassinet, and he'd wind up sleeping with us until his next feeding and then until morning.
Though I have no problem with co-sleeping with a baby this young, I don't want to co-sleep forever. I don't sleep as well with him by me, and I'm starting to think he doesn't as well.
He is thrashing around like crazy in his sleep--trying to get his fist into his mouth to self-soothe (which he can't quite manage). He won't take the paci (I personally have no problem with pacifiers--whatever makes little babies feel more comfortable). I sometimes put him back on th breast when he's doing this, and he sometimes is interested and sucks himself back to sleep. Other times, he refuses and just keeps thrashing.
We've tried swaddling, and he seems to be comforted by this, but the tricky part is that he just can't seem to tolerate it unless he is alreaady sleeping. So no swaddling him as part of a soothing ritual. It just won't work (unless we run the hairdryer, a trick we learned with Jack).
What do you think is going on? Daytime sleep has deteriorated too. I'm assuming he's either overtired or maybe going through a growth spurt or some developmental leap that is causing sleep dysregulation. But I really don't know. Nor do I know what to do. He's sleeping in the sling right now (the only thing that seems to work). This is okay, but with a toddler, I really need him to be willing to sleep alone sometimes. I know some are in favor of baby wearing whenever the baby wants it/needs it, and in my heart, I want to meet his needs. But I have 2 children, and I am not taking care of myself well enough. I could use a nap now and again. And I have to be gearing up to be going back to work in 5 weeks. My nanny needs to be able to manage the 2 of them as well.
Any thoughts on what to do about the thrashing (I feel bad for him, poor little lamb) and the lack of day time sleep? He will fall asleep nursing (sometimes) but as soon as he is put down (even after being held 15 minutes first), he pops up upset. This all seems worse since we started nursing in bed. Does this seem like a likely connection?
Oh, and we are treating him for mild reflux with Zantac. So I don't think that's what's bothering him now most of the time.
Sleepless in Chicago (Lisa)
& Jack, 4/20/01
& Joshua, 11/16/03