RE: Sad news - DH is going to Iraq.
Oh, Tammy, how horrible! I am so sorry. Don't worry right now about things like renovating your birth plan. You just need some time to grieve. Cry as much as you need to, and sort out details later. It's okay that it doesn't feel special at the moment.
In the months to come, you're going to need lots of support, so we'll be here for you every step of the way. I wish I had a way to get to you to help with your birth or with your new baby. I'll send you my phone number, so please call anytime you need backup.
In the meantime, my prayers are for peace in these troubled times and for your husband's safe return. And although it will of course be very different than you imagined to give birth without your husband there, remember that for all of human history, women have relied on the support and company of other women for birth. It's part of our heritage and our responsibility to nurture one another through this amazing process. Women create a circle of strength around each other, and we're going to do the same for you.
-Rachel
Mom to Abigail Rose
5/18/02
Rachel
Mama to Abby (5) and Ethan (2)
When you know better, you do better.
-Maya Angelou