MIL Rant- I don't think I am overreacting...but maybe I am????
My MIL called me last Saturday to tell me that she is embarassed to say she threw out some cards with her recycling (she is a teacher and recycles white paper, etc..). She wasn't sure which cards made it out and which ones were recycled and asked if DH received his father's day card. I told her no and not to even worry about it. I just felt bad that she mistakingly threw out the cards...that sucks...
Fast forward to Thursday...I check the mail...there is a package for Matthew from my MIL and 2 cards addressed to DH. I know I sometimes call DS Patrick and get DH and DS mixed up. I thought she did the same. What possessed me, I don't know...but I opened the card. It was a Father's Day card but it was like a card from a child to a father. WHAT?? I open it up and it was written to DH from MY SON FROM MY MIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I didn't know what to say. I purchased a card from DS and I also let DS pick a gift for DH (I held up two X Box games and let him grab one!). I felt infringed upon. The first thought in my head was "No you didn't!!" (with finger waving up and down).
I know she didn't mean anything by it, but I feel like she is questioning my skills as a good wife and mother, in a way. I am ALWAYS one to send thank you notes quickly, to send birthday cards and other holiday greetings in a timely manner, etc.. I always have been. She has even commented on this to other people in front of me, how thoughtful I am when it comes to things like that. So why would she do this?????????????????????????????????????????????? ?????????????
The other thing is this just intensified my feelings of "not feeling the love". I know she favors my nephew (the boys are 4 months apart) and she has never really given my son that much attention. But I don't dwell on that. But it infuriates me that she would take it upon herself to send a card from MY SON when she doesn't even show that muchg interest in him. It's like, what the f%!@# !!!
Ok...I will stop now...I am just annoyed about the whole thing and I don't know what can be done to nip it in the bud without hurting feelings or causing trouble...
-Melissa
Mom to M (2002) & M (2014)