.......is this an "innocent" comment that a married woman would make to MY HUSBAND????????
DH works in the fitness industry, teaches group fitness classes, personal trains, you get the picture. His Tues. a.m. class is full of stay-at-home moms who love him and hoot and hollar at him....which until recently, I though was cute. They bought us baby gifts....gave him a cake for his birthday, etc.
Then there was this one woman.....I'm in such shock that although I once knew her name, I have now mentally blocked it. Stay-at-home mom to four. DH calls one day and asks if it would be OK with me for his Tues a.m. class to take him to lunch. I say, "oh, how nice of them! OK!" Well it turns out to be my DH (and in this case the "d" doesn't stand for darling/dear) and THIS WOMAN!!!!!! ALONE!!!!!!!!
More and more things happen...yadayadayada.....I tell him that his comments to this woman are to be restricted to greetings and comments on the weather. Fast forward to election day. I drop by to see him and he is hunkered over this woman talking to her in the middle of the fitness floor. This is when I blew up for real, crying (not in the middle of his work, later that night) telling him that his is not to be her "friend"....he insists that she is "just" a friend....and then he goes on "oh, I guess I can't have any friends" to which I reply," of course you can have friends, male friends, married couple friends that we hang out with, not female friends that I don't know.....you can either have this female "friend" or you can have a wife."
So all is going well (at least I think) until this weekend and he gets a call from a co-worker. He tells me that she has had a couple of drinks and may need a ride somewhere. He gets dressed and waits. Then he decides to tell me "the truth" that this "woman" is 6 weeks pregnant and bleeding and he may need to go and "take care of her kids" and thought I would "understand" that he needed to be with his "friend".
He insists that he has no personal stake in this....he's not having an affair....she's "just a friend". I don't believe it.....at least I know he is having an "emotional affair" which just feels worse. I don't know what to do. Tell me what to do.