RE: "My husband doesn't feel threatened by you".......
Shannon, I think you've gotten some great advice. I just wanted to say I hope things get better for you, and I know you must be feeling wretched about this. I hope he shapes up, and please do make sure that you express to him how much he has hurt you and damaged your ability to trust him.
And just to reiterate that I do not think you are being paranoid, I cannot think of a single reason why he would not ask you to go wtih him if he needed to go watch her kids, if everything was on the up-and-up. Who wouldn't want another adult, especially their spouse, to come help them watch someone else's children.
(((Hugs to you)))) I hope this situation can be resolved soon!
Deb
Mama to my guys, K (May '03) and Q (June '07)