My stepdaughter may never speak to me again

[buddyleebaby]

Hugs, Susan. It sounds like you care very much and your dh is lucky to have you. Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do to change her behavior.
I haven't blamed my parents for anything since I moved out of the house at 17. I am an adult, I make my own choices (good or bad) and I have to face the consequences.
Your step-daughter sounds like she either needs to talk her issues with her father out, or let them go altogether. the way she is dealing with her anger is not helpful to anyone, including her.
That said, none of that should be on your head. all you should worry about is loving your dh to the best of your ability. It's up to the two of them to work out their issues.

[buddyleebaby]

Hugs, Susan. It sounds like you care very much and your dh is lucky to have you. Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do to change her behavior.
I haven't blamed my parents for anything since I moved out of the house at 17. I am an adult, I make my own choices (good or bad) and I have to face the consequences.
Your step-daughter sounds like she either needs to talk her issues with her father out, or let them go altogether. the way she is dealing with her anger is not helpful to anyone, including her.
That said, none of that should be on your head. all you should worry about is loving your dh to the best of your ability. It's up to the two of them to work out their issues.

[buddyleebaby]

Hugs, Susan. It sounds like you care very much and your dh is lucky to have you. Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do to change her behavior.
I haven't blamed my parents for anything since I moved out of the house at 17. I am an adult, I make my own choices (good or bad) and I have to face the consequences.
Your step-daughter sounds like she either needs to talk her issues with her father out, or let them go altogether. the way she is dealing with her anger is not helpful to anyone, including her.
That said, none of that should be on your head. all you should worry about is loving your dh to the best of your ability. It's up to the two of them to work out their issues.

[buddyleebaby]

Hugs, Susan. It sounds like you care very much and your dh is lucky to have you. Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do to change her behavior.
I haven't blamed my parents for anything since I moved out of the house at 17. I am an adult, I make my own choices (good or bad) and I have to face the consequences.
Your step-daughter sounds like she either needs to talk her issues with her father out, or let them go altogether. the way she is dealing with her anger is not helpful to anyone, including her.
That said, none of that should be on your head. all you should worry about is loving your dh to the best of your ability. It's up to the two of them to work out their issues.

[buddyleebaby]

Hugs, Susan. It sounds like you care very much and your dh is lucky to have you. Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do to change her behavior.
I haven't blamed my parents for anything since I moved out of the house at 17. I am an adult, I make my own choices (good or bad) and I have to face the consequences.
Your step-daughter sounds like she either needs to talk her issues with her father out, or let them go altogether. the way she is dealing with her anger is not helpful to anyone, including her.
That said, none of that should be on your head. all you should worry about is loving your dh to the best of your ability. It's up to the two of them to work out their issues.

[buddyleebaby]

Hugs, Susan. It sounds like you care very much and your dh is lucky to have you. Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do to change her behavior.
I haven't blamed my parents for anything since I moved out of the house at 17. I am an adult, I make my own choices (good or bad) and I have to face the consequences.
Your step-daughter sounds like she either needs to talk her issues with her father out, or let them go altogether. the way she is dealing with her anger is not helpful to anyone, including her.
That said, none of that should be on your head. all you should worry about is loving your dh to the best of your ability. It's up to the two of them to work out their issues.

[nicoleandjackson]

(((Hugs, mama!)))

I'm glad you got some things off your chest. It doesn't sound like she is ready (or able?) to take control of her life. Our family is in a similar situation where my sister is disrespectful of my stepmother in ways that range from subtle to blow-your-hair-back aggression. The only advice I have is for you to manage your expectations of her--it seems from your post that your DH is able to do that to some degree, and now that you've vented to her, you can only hope that 1) she actually "heard" you, and 2) that she takes some or all of it to heart.

I understand you that it's terribly difficult to watch someone hurt the one(s) you love. I hope you guys can find some peace with this, or that her attitude turns around soon.

Nicole
Mommy of Jackson 4/30/02

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[nicoleandjackson]

(((Hugs, mama!)))

I'm glad you got some things off your chest. It doesn't sound like she is ready (or able?) to take control of her life. Our family is in a similar situation where my sister is disrespectful of my stepmother in ways that range from subtle to blow-your-hair-back aggression. The only advice I have is for you to manage your expectations of her--it seems from your post that your DH is able to do that to some degree, and now that you've vented to her, you can only hope that 1) she actually "heard" you, and 2) that she takes some or all of it to heart.

I understand you that it's terribly difficult to watch someone hurt the one(s) you love. I hope you guys can find some peace with this, or that her attitude turns around soon.

Nicole
Mommy of Jackson 4/30/02

http://b5.lilypie.com/nD9Jm5.png

[nicoleandjackson]

(((Hugs, mama!)))

I'm glad you got some things off your chest. It doesn't sound like she is ready (or able?) to take control of her life. Our family is in a similar situation where my sister is disrespectful of my stepmother in ways that range from subtle to blow-your-hair-back aggression. The only advice I have is for you to manage your expectations of her--it seems from your post that your DH is able to do that to some degree, and now that you've vented to her, you can only hope that 1) she actually "heard" you, and 2) that she takes some or all of it to heart.

I understand you that it's terribly difficult to watch someone hurt the one(s) you love. I hope you guys can find some peace with this, or that her attitude turns around soon.

Nicole
Mommy of Jackson 4/30/02

http://b5.lilypie.com/nD9Jm5.png

[nicoleandjackson]

(((Hugs, mama!)))

I'm glad you got some things off your chest. It doesn't sound like she is ready (or able?) to take control of her life. Our family is in a similar situation where my sister is disrespectful of my stepmother in ways that range from subtle to blow-your-hair-back aggression. The only advice I have is for you to manage your expectations of her--it seems from your post that your DH is able to do that to some degree, and now that you've vented to her, you can only hope that 1) she actually "heard" you, and 2) that she takes some or all of it to heart.

I understand you that it's terribly difficult to watch someone hurt the one(s) you love. I hope you guys can find some peace with this, or that her attitude turns around soon.

Nicole
Mommy of Jackson 4/30/02

http://b5.lilypie.com/nD9Jm5.png