Love or Hate your IL's?

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[psophia17]

I think there's middle ground - I love my ILs, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. It's hard to figure out what you can live with and what you need to put your foot down about, and it's even harder to get that message across without offending...

On the flip side, I love my parents, but they drive me crazy on so many levels. My mom is queen of baby gear purchased at the dollar store or from flea markets (I had to put my foot down about the basinett that was held together with duct tape), and my Dad loved nothing more than to feed DS (at only a few weeks old) a fingerful of butter and sugar...

I take a lot of deep breaths to try and deal with both sets of grandparents...it's just a matter of picking the right battles (the ones you can win are the best kind to pick ;) )

[elliput]

I am very fortunate. I have IL's who accepted me into their family, and have been supportive and generous beyond my wildest expectations. And I can have some pretty *wild* expectations! ;-) I do love my IL's. That being said, my FIL has some confidence issues and is often self-depreciating and my MIL can be a bit of a ditz, but I would have no problem with leaving DD in their care. They understand that I am the parent, and what I say goes. I just wish, like with my family, that we lived closer.

[elliput]

I am very fortunate. I have IL's who accepted me into their family, and have been supportive and generous beyond my wildest expectations. And I can have some pretty *wild* expectations! ;-) I do love my IL's. That being said, my FIL has some confidence issues and is often self-depreciating and my MIL can be a bit of a ditz, but I would have no problem with leaving DD in their care. They understand that I am the parent, and what I say goes. I just wish, like with my family, that we lived closer.

[elliput]

I am very fortunate. I have IL's who accepted me into their family, and have been supportive and generous beyond my wildest expectations. And I can have some pretty *wild* expectations! ;-) I do love my IL's. That being said, my FIL has some confidence issues and is often self-depreciating and my MIL can be a bit of a ditz, but I would have no problem with leaving DD in their care. They understand that I am the parent, and what I say goes. I just wish, like with my family, that we lived closer.