No private schools (not the Parochials) is going to take a summer boy for kindergarten. For some silly reason I thought that I would be the one who got to decide whether to hold ds back one year or go right to kindergarten. But, I guess the decision is out of my hands unless I want to send him to public or Parochial school.
The one admission's director said, "some years your ds would have been a fine fit for our kindergarten program but next year we have an older crowd and he wouldn't be ready." So, I am being penalized because I want to start ds on time and other parents didn't want to do that? Plus, back in January I had a long talk with this admission director and she said that she saw no reason a early summer boy couldn't do kindergarten at her school. She went on to talk about what expectations they had for boys in kindergarten (totally age and developmentally appropriate, btw). I don't know now if she was being honest or was just trying to tell me what I wanted to hear. I understand that each year dif't kids apply and last year he would have been fine and things just shook out this way. But, she seemed to want to deny having that conversation with me in January.
I totally accept that ds has work to do in the social department but they are on going skills that I think he will learn over time. And, heck, last year he had an overnight leap in social development so I know with him that anything can happen. Maybe he isn't going to be ready either and would benefit from more time. If I had a guarantee that that was true it would make this a lot easier! Id just hate to hold him out only to find that it made no difference.
Sorry, it just bugs me that I don't really get to decide what is right for my ds. It's all being done in a committee of people that met with ds for 15 minutes.
I do think we should get to decide this matter for ourselves and I know moms on this board opted to keep their little ones out even though they were technically old enough. I think this is more of a vent about the private school mentality (which I guess I really didn't give much though to before) in that they want such a homogeneous class.
Well, thanks for letting me vent! I now have to decide about pre-k (if I can find a space somewhere) or kindergarten somewhere. Dh knew all along that they weren't going to take him for kindergarten b/c of his b-day...he just didn't share that thought with me till now.
Beth