I've heard this said to people before and I roll my eyes to myself. First off, I think going from no children to one is THE BIGGEST adjustment. What a huge change!!! Going from 1 to 2 is hard, but not as hard (and I say that from the lucky perspective of having had an easy first child and challenging second). I mean, with a second you've gained some confidence and experience. You know what pitfalls to avoid. And frankly, with 2 children you still have a hand for each of them. Why the heck couldn't she take them on a bus?
Now, I'm a bit freaked about going from 2 to 4 kids, frankly, but my friends with 4+ children all say that after the third kid, it's all uphill. I guess we'll see.
I agree with the pps who said that a lot depends on the children. One difficult child can really make outings challenging. But I also think a LOT depends on the parent. How well they are organized, how easily they are distracted, how well they are able to discipline/control their children- all of that makes a difference in how manageable their own lives are. But it's easier for some parents to make comments like your friend's than to accept that they have some personal shortcomings.
Lisa
Mom to Gator July 2003
And Cha-Cha July 2005
and surprise! twins due 11/07!